Re: Interesting Conversation (THOUGHTS FROM THE FORUM WOULD BE HELPFUL) Lumpy: [quote author=dontgetit link=topic=22524.msg209689#msg209689 date=1134077254">
Thanks, I agree I have been spending to much time on this....I will ask though am I reading to much into these disjointed comments made by my wife or do they tell a story..............
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The thing is, it's a story that only your wife can tell. If I had to guess I'd say she's more than a little confused and unsure of her situation. Past that, who knows?
Re: Interesting Conversation (THOUGHTS FROM THE FORUM WOULD BE HELPFUL) stanker: [quote author=dontgetit link=topic=22524.msg209689#msg209689 date=1134077254">
Thanks, I agree I have been spending to much time on this....I will ask though am I reading to much into these disjointed comments made by my wife or do they tell a story..............
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By reading into it, I hear from you that you want her to come back for any reason.
But since you pose the question, from your description it sounds to me like she is scheming. She is smarter than you give her credit for and by leaving her options open (or at least assessing where you are) she can use you as a backup plan if things start falling apart with the OM. Ask yourself if this is that what you want and is this the role you want to play?
Re: Interesting Conversation (THOUGHTS FROM THE FORUM WOULD BE HELPFUL) dontgetit: Stanker - why do you think she is scheming...Are you suggesting that she put my daughter up to it (that for sure is not the case) NONE of what was said was part of a single conversation - it all just cameout over the course of the day...DO you think that she told my daughter HOPING it would get back to me....What exactly do you mean....Problem from my end today is if phoned me to come home, my car would be at her house before she hung up.........All of these comments have been rattling around in my head all day..........
Re: Interesting Conversation (THOUGHTS FROM THE FORUM WOULD BE HELPFUL) stanker: Sorry. I didn't mean it to seem like she is scheming in some evil way. Even if she doesn't realize it, it sounds like she is planning a few moves ahead, maybe with the expectation that things *are not* going to work out with the OM. By asking your daugther to ask you for money, it seems to be a way to gauge your willingness to help her out, or dare I say a barometer of your willingness to take her back. But I think you did the right thing in case that's not what's going on.
You need her to fail on her own. If you want her to come crawling back, give it time. From your description, her affair doesn't seem long-lived. I wish you the best of luck. Keep your chin up.
Re: Interesting Conversation (THOUGHTS FROM THE FORUM WOULD BE HELPFUL) dontgetit: No I do not think asking for more money was her scheming - I had given her a hundred dollars about a month ago and two weeks ago I gave her two hundred (to take my daughter out for a nice dinner))...I think she was just checking my line in the sand on that one - as a matter of fact that is pretty much what she told the grown daughter after I said no....
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