Christmas and the ex's family??? charmed:
My ex-bf's Mother and I had formed a bond. We hadn't met in person, since she lives in another state, but we had talked a zillion times on the phone. She liked me very much. She asked my bf all the time when we were getting married. This was a BIG thing since his family wasn't thrill with his ex wife. They didn't have reason to be LOL
Anyway, since the break-up (which was abrupt and weird) I have not spoken to his Mother. I have NO idea what he may have told her, but I have serious doubts that it was the truth - him cheating on me. I feel like my relationship with her dropped off the face of the earth and she has no idea why. I do not feel right in calling her because that would put everyone in an awkward position.
I would like to send her a Christmas card (less invasive than a call) so that she knows I appreciate the kindness she showed to me and still think fondly of her. I am NOT doing this for my ex. In fact, if there was any way around it I would prefer he didn't even know, but he will LOL
I think sending a Christmas card is the last opportunity to contact her. It would be ridiculous to wait until next year LOL and there aren't many other holidays to contact someone in this manner. I sent her a Christmas card last year so it won't be like I'm doing it out of the blue.
I do not want this gesture to comes across to my ex as anything I'm doing to get his attention. This is about the bond I formed with his Mother and NOTHING more.
Any thoughts, suggestions?
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Re: Christmas and the ex's family??? RSGinATX: Go ahead and send it. Include a letter to her in the card to be sure the point is driven in that you're sending it to keep in touch with her
Re: Christmas and the ex's family??? ChiefWiggum: I wouldn't want to drive home the point that I want to continue a relationship with her. I'd probably just say goodbye. Of course, I'd love to tell her that heh is a cheating bastard, but I'm not sure how I could work that into a Christmas card. :P
Re: Christmas and the ex's family??? charmed: No, I'm not even mentioning wanting a continuing relationship with her. I simply want to send the card as a gesture of still thinking fondly of her. I don't plan to write a lot, just the usual Christmas greeting like I would send to family or friends. No mention of the break-up. No mention of anything other than Christmas wishes.
I'm not doing this with expectations. How she receives it is up to her, but I would like to extend this one last gesture.
Thank you for your replies ;D
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Re: Christmas and the ex's family??? stanker: +1 point for Wiggum. I agree. It's really nice that you formed this bond, but who cares at this point what she thinks about you now. His mother will (and probably should be -- right or wrong) loyal to her son. So when you broke up, his mother and rest of the family went with him.
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