Any Advice is Appreciated timeofyourlife: To recap, girlfriend of three years ended things on me shortly after going back to school this year. I never got the chance to talk with her in person and all she said was that she could not handle our relationship right now. It's been about 2 months and we have gone from talking off and on to never speaking. I am sure she is now over me. She will be coming home when the semester ends.
I contemplate whether it is worth it to try and talk with her or not. It is hard for me to understand that it is over since we always had such a great time together and feel that if we got the chance we would still have a great time together. I can't imagine her looking at me in person and no longer being in love with me. At the same time however, if she felt the way she used to towards me she never would have ended things. I feel like I was just shut out for some reason. Of course if you don't see the person it is easier to end the relationship. I also feel like I would realize it is truly over if she could look at me and not have feelings for me anymore. It is alot easier to do that online or over the phone. It just does not seem real to me.
So, what I am really asking is whether you think it is worth it to try and talk with her or whether to try and just let the relationship die without doing so? I'm sure the latter is the better option and I have not talked to her in probably near 3 wks. However, I still am not over her and it is extremely difficult throwing in the towel on the best time of my life. Thanks in advance.
Re: Any Advice is Appreciated ChiefWiggum: [quote author=timeofyourlife link=topic=22556.msg209788#msg209788 date=1134105949"> It is hard for me to understand that it is over[/quote">
You think it's hard now, wait until you start having awkward conversations with her and later analyzing everything she said and trying to figure out if she likes you or not.
If your goal is honestly to understand that it is over, you should not call her.
Re: Any Advice is Appreciated ajw: she's probably not contacting you cause its hard for her too......dont contact her its just going to lead to tears and animosity for both of you
Re: Any Advice is Appreciated timeofyourlife: I just feel like if I was to talk to her I could express to her in person how I feel. I doubt that would change the situation but atleast I would feel like I have nothing inside of me and that she will completely understand. She will not want to hear it I am sure, but maybe down the road it will have an impact. I also spent three years with her. If we can't be together anymore I would atleast like to know that I have a friend in her. We won't be able to talk frequently because of our history, but it would be comforting to know that I have her if I ever truly needed something. Am I just being crazy?
Re: Any Advice is Appreciated Frazzled Nomad: no you aren't being crazy at all, this site is full of everyone asking that exact same question :)
trust me, it is NOT good to see your ex without the look of love for you in her eyes. that does not give you closure. it just gives you a massive icy cold knife in the guts and your heart sucked out your mouth. you will feel WORSE not better afterwards. it's hard but it's like drink the disgusting medicine and get better in a month versus don't drink it and stay sick for another six.
if she has decided it's over, well, it's over. you might be able to be friends but not right now. it will take both of you to get over each other first. which will take time. which will be longer if you see each other or interact.
*comprehensively fails to heed own advice*
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