Maybe it worked!!!??? Scott: Well if you don't know my story, here is the short version. Wife of 6 yrs quits 28,000 dollar a year job out of the blue after forcing bankruptcy (we didn't really need to), she didn't work all summer (except at a bar for 1 month), we started running into financial problems (she is a high cost of living wife) then at the end of Sept 05 told me that she didn't love me (she said she never did), I kicked her out, she moved 5 houses down from mine with our 5 yr old son, and her sister and sisters daughter. For the past month I initiated no contact with her because she started doing things she always looked down upon. She got a job as a jeugermister (alcohol) girl, selling the drink at bars, the stability that our son needed wasn't there (taking him during the school week and sleeping at her friends house), and the list goes on. Well anyways I had it so I confronted her on this and how my sons discipline has gone down hill and how she used to bitch at her sister about the things that she is doing now, I told her to wake up out of her dream world and be the mother that her son used to have, etc... I called her the next day to tell her that I had the money for child support and that I wasn't sorry for what I said but don't want to fight anymore because of the changes in our son. She started crying and told me that she thought about what I said last night and agrees she is not headed in the right direction and that she wanted to talk about things and maybe go out to dinner once a week as a family and stuff like that. So what does everyone think? Sorry this is so long.
Re: Maybe it worked!!!??? ajw: do you think she's considering reconcilliation....or something else.......would you want to get back with her?
Re: Maybe it worked!!!??? RSGinATX: Are you fighting for custody?
I really wouldn't get too hopeful over what she said. Actions speak louder than words...until she starts to take steps to turn things around don't read anything into what she says. She could be just telling you what you want to hear to avoid arguments, or because she might be scared you'll take your son away. She could be stringing you along as a fallback..or to hit you up financially. Bottom line...she hasn't been acting rationally up to this point..no reason to assume she'll act rationally from now on without some real proof.
Re: Maybe it worked!!!??? Scott: We have joint custody. The thing is she still hasn't filed for divorce or anything, just child support. I think I am at the point where I won't get my hopes up. At least I hope. But whatever happens happens. If she does want to work things out I know that I am a better person now then I was before. I have watched alot of romantic movies to learn how to be more romantic either with her or down the road when I would meet someone else (The Notebook and Jerry Mcguire are my favorites-it reminds me of our relationship). I'll just have to wait and see.
