Re: Marriage and affairs.... Konan: Hi Kaya26,
I really sympathize with the place you're in, asking yourself these questions. I have been there. My wife cheated on me with a workmate. She was acting funny and distant for 3 months or so before we split. As soon as we separated she was with him, so there very clearly was an overlap there. Yet she denied it had anything to do with her leaving, saying she was "unhappy and unfulfilled." THAT's why she left, she said.
Bull. I have to agree with most of the responses - regardless of what was going on, her unhappiness, her feeling unfulfilled, that is not an excuse to break your vows, to cheat and lie and treat the person you committed to so disrespectfully.
Try and stop "struggling" with this, with wondering if maybe the two of you were not meant to be. That's the kind of rationalization that cheaters use to justify their actions - like the guy who said God wanted him to do it. Sure...right...u-huh. You were married and made a commitment and he unfortunately failed to live up to it. The blame falls squarely on him, and on my X's shoulders. Good luck, Konan.
Re: Marriage and affairs.... hardened_heart1970: one word to answer this.
NO WAY.
by saying "it wasnt meant to be" is just an excuse. thats all. so if you go to mcdonalds, order fries with no salt, but they put salt on it, was it meant to be?.......... no. the people were lazy, and stupid and my fries were cold. well, anyhow, dont kid yourself.
they are to blame. they are rotten pieces of dog crud. and should be shot on site. we are not to blame, unless it helps you get over it, dont say it.
good luck.
Re: Marriage and affairs.... dragonfly: Sorry PickingUpThePieces...didn't mean to make you spit your soda out...
But when I think back on that comment and his reaction...it was priceless. ;D
