Re: WOW!!! dontgetit: Best of luck to both you and your wife...Keep us posted, it gives the rest of us hope for happinesss.
Re: WOW!!! Whirlpool: Wow man, who would have thought with us giving you such a hard time and your efforts paid off! I think everyone else said it best, careful and keep those feelings guarded.
One thing I would suggest you start getting your head ready now, and that is if she backs out of this this time you need to start your new life man. If you wait around for her again, and she comes back again, how would you ever trust it?
But that is just something to get in your head and prepare for. In the meantime I think your plan rules. Quality time is so important in a marriage, me and my wife did not start doing it until it was too late.
Re: WOW!!! Falcon554: [quote author=Whirlpool link=topic=22570.msg209947#msg209947 date=1134174967">
Wow man, who would have thought with us giving you such a hard time and your efforts paid off! I think everyone else said it best, careful and keep those feelings guarded.
One thing I would suggest you start getting your head ready now, and that is if she backs out of this this time you need to start your new life man. If you wait around for her again, and she comes back again, how would you ever trust it?
But that is just something to get in your head and prepare for. In the meantime I think your plan rules. Quality time is so important in a marriage, me and my wife did not start doing it until it was too late.
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Thanks and you did not give me a hard time, nothing has happend yet. It was talk lastnight thats all. Thats a step tho. I did spend the night lastnight in my old bed :) My daughter was between us but still I was there for the first time in 3 months.
Take this for what its worth my wife has been with more then 1 guy now ok :( She told me lastnight that "none of the other guys were ever going to take me away from you". Might be the weirdest sentence ever!!
What I have is a woman who got married way to young and sewing her oats. I just hope all her oats have been filled. EEK that did not sound right.
But that explaines why she always wanted me around, and when I did go no contact she got soooo pissed.
Re: WOW!!! mrlament: thats good news falcon...like whirlpool said ive seen you get kicked around enough to now one thing...only you and your spouse know the true depths of your relationship. and if it dosent work out ( i hope it does) but if it dosent i think youll both have closure knowing you gave it your all. you never gave up, and as you said this is only a first step...its a step. and i'd gladly be "stepin in your shoes right about now" good luck- you may be the first person on OJAR to post [color=red"> "love conquers all" [/color"> i look foward to that post! helpless romantic that i am. ;D
Re: WOW!!! Konan: Hi Falcon,
Well, I'll give you a hard time. I hate to be the party-pooper here, but she's been with multiple guys, cheated on you I presume(?), and then she decides on her schedule that now that she has a ton of problems and could use rescuing, she wants to "work on the marriage"? Come on!!
"None of the other guys were ever going to take me away from you." Are you f-ing kidding me here?!? Is that like saying "I just wanted to get a little action on the side, but you're my number one"? You weren't number one when she was with them, my friend.
Listen to your body, Falcon. There's a very good reason you feel "scared to death." Deep down you know that if you let her back in she'll hurt you again.
I hope I'm wrong, but I don't think so.
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