I cant stand this! emcee: My x has a new boyfriend who, from my view, is trying to buy her and my children. Yesterday he paid her $300 to clean his house and my 5 year old son $25 just to clean a room. I asked him to clean his room and he asked me for money. ahhhhhhh We were together for 6 years and i paid for everything i mean everything. every bill every meal every night out. now she is repeating her behavior with this guy. difference is i was doing it for a family, i put her through school for our family. now she thinks this guy is great because he has bottomless pockets. she has sex with him, which sucks, cuz she would barley have sex with me for the last year of our relationship. needless to say my ego is crushed, i am just wondering if he is trying to woo her or will this continue. none of my buisness but i feel so low and completely used. is she going to do this to him or did she just not like me?
Re: I cant stand this! bbygrl: I feel your pain...especially where your child is involved, I have a 5 yr old son as well. I am battling right now with the fact that my husband has been seeing somebody for 5 mths, and it seems like their relationship and his lifestyle has changed to be everything I asked him for and he wouldn't give me.I guess the sad truth is that him and I combined made a different relationship then him and her.Its not my fault, it just is. Same with you.Who really knows what the outcome of her new relationship with him will be, or my husband and his.Our job is to stop wondering because we have no control over their lives, only our own.Believe me...I know its easier said then done!!But for now all I can control is what kind of Mom I am to my son, and getting to the gym to alleviate some blood boiling anger.My advice to you is to definately find some kind of outlet ( fitness is good and before you know it you also look amazing :)I know everything will work out for you, and for me, and everybody else that hurts like this!!
Re: I cant stand this! emcee: i agree with the lifestyle being like what i wanted us to be, her friends were around us literally 24/7 and i wanted some space just for her and i and never got it in six years. now she has dropped her friends like a bad habit and just stays with him. i swear i am going crazy.
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i agree with the lifestyle being like what i wanted us to be, her friends were around us literally 24/7 and i wanted some space just for her and i and never got it in six years. now she has dropped her friends like a bad habit and just stays with him. i swear i am going crazy.
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Join the club! I am crazy too. I think bbygrl is right... you and I cannot control the lives of our spouse/former spouse. Just work on your own life. I personally am still living with my wife for now, but when we do move out, the thing I promise myself is that all contact will be done (other than the taxes and signing the divorce papers). We don't hate each other, but the pain of watching someone else move on is unbearable. Hard to watch someone who is happy without you isn't it?
