Re: Is he sincere or playing games? RSGinATX: Single1,
Were you his first relationship after his breakup? Gut feeling is telling me he's not over his marriage yet despite how bad it may have been. Sometimes not being ready for a new relationship equates to regretting your loss from a previous one. He probably truly does want to be with you, but can't fully move on. Did his pull-back coincide with his relationship with his ex becoming more civil? Maybe he still has a fantasy of putting his family back together but knows its not going to happen...so he dates, but never commits. I can totally understand his back-and-forth thinking as I almost got into a post-separation relationship as well while I still hadn't 100% let go of the stbx.
Re: Is he sincere or playing games? Single1: I do think we got involved too fast. And I was always worried of that. Our relationship became more distant as his relationship w/ his ex worsened, actually. His "reason" for not wanting a relationship is that he's "afraid to get hurt and afraid of getting hurt again." But yet he will fully admit that I've never hurt him & he believes that I never would. While I can most certainly understand this, WHY DOESN'T HE LET ME GO AND LEAVE ME ALONE? I guess, being in my shoes, I don't know if he's just a game playing, emotionally unstable, selfish person. Is he just trying to "keep the door open?" Or is he really sincere and worthy of my being patient? (And I don't mean sitting around waiting...I literally mean just having hope for someday....)
I should also mention that he's playing the field and dating a lot. Not any one girl, but lots of girls. To me, that sounds like a rebound behavior. But it also sounds like he's "searching" for someone that he can't find. And that is what really confuses me. Because if he IS searching for the "right" girl.....and knows that I'm not, then why tell me that I am and why not leave me alone? However, some of my guy friends tell me that guys can do that better than women - date a lot of other women while being in love with someone else. ????
