Re: My story RSGinATX: [quote author=Dont-want-one link=topic=22580.msg209959#msg209959 date=1134176758">
The only problem I have with letting go is that if she decides she wants to be married after all, I have told her that she can't come back. I don't want to do this again in a few more months/years.... it is just too painful. [/quote">
Understandable. If you feel you have to try to have no regrets, then do it. You'd be surprised how quickly things change later, though.
[quote"> we both let ourselves go over the last few years [/quote">
I'd seriously spend some time thinking about what was going on around the time this started. Not that finding the genesis will necessarily change course for you, but it helps to understand.
[quote"> but she and I have not been having sex as often as I would have liked... when I asked her why, she said it was hard to just start up having sex as much as we used to after being on a not-so-regular basis for a few years.
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Doesn't sound right to me. Unless there's been some medical/mental change in her it boils down to attraction. If she walked out tomorrow and met someone new, they'd be at it like rabbits...believe me, I've seen it.
Re: My story Dont-want-one: Kind of weird.... I don't want to be her friend if she does not want to be my wife, but I just can't imagine a day without her in my life. Not seeing the person I love. Not kissing hi or goodbye. Not being able to tell her about my day or ask about hers. How do you all deal with this... I can tell by some of the posts that many of you are very happy to be done with it... but others are still soooo attached.... how do you do it?
Re: My story TaoChick: Is there any chance that she'd agree to try marriage counseling? I personally wouldn't, and didn't, give up until marriage counseling was not an option (because he refused to go).
