Re: Women's perspective frontier74: It could have been that your ex was dealing with the same issues as mine -- she wasn't romantically interested in her husband. In order for my wife to "get off," she would have to completely remove me from her mind while having sex, oral or otherwise. Foreplay is all about enjoying eachother, but if one partner isn't physically or emotionally attracted to the other, then it would be more of an unpleasant chore, than a sensual bonding experience. With quick sex, it was easier for her to forget who she was with, at least long enough to get her "O" going. :-\
Re: Women's perspective Horseface: I don't think she had to do that, I just don't think she liked having sex. She was fine with 3 to 4 times a year. Amazing. There was definitly no bonding - at least not most of the times. It seemed that the few times we did really connect, she would pull farther away.
Oh well.. Someday I will know what it feels like to be with someone who really wants to be there - AND wants extended foreplay!!! Ha.
