Was it a good 1st date if she did all the talking? timer:
I met woman for drinks (I didn't drink she did) after work and we talked for 2.5 hrs. The conversation flowed rather well and there were very few silent pauses. However, I left feeling that we spent an inordinate amount of time talking about the woman's experiences, fears and hopes. I chimed in when I could relate but she really didn't ask many if any questions about me. I generally prefer to ask questions and let the other person talk but I keep telling myself that if she was interested in me she would have asked more questions about me or followed when I brought up personal facts about myself.
All that said, at the end of the night when I said we should do this again she said definitely (who wouldn't want another opportunity to talk more about themself) and when I told I would call her she said good.
I'm probably overanalyzing the whole thing and I guess i'll know if the first date went well when i she accepts or rejects an offer for a second date.
Re: Was it a good 1st date if she did all the talking? Horseface: Sure it was a good date - for the first one. If she keeps talking like that through the second one you may have cause for concern. The first date she might be really nervous and so you made her feel at ease.
Give it another try and see how it does. If she still talks, play her the Toby Kieth Song, "I wanna talk about me". Its great and it gets the point across quite well!
ok..on the second date that might not be a good idea!!!
Re: Was it a good 1st date if she did all the talking? jem: I agree with horse on this one- I wouldn't judge everything based on a first date of drinks- some people are naturally talkers more than others and it may not have anything to do with her interest in you. I think interest in another develops as you go (or doesn't develop). I would give it a few dates (sounds like she'll say yes to a second) and see if it develops or not. If not, you probably don't want someone like that around because it would be frustrating to always have to listen to someone else and have to fight to get a word in edgewise. Then you really wouldn't be interested in her, right?
