The plot thickens crushedman: For those of you not familiar-
My GF of 3 years had an XBF that was in the picture clouding things. We broke up for about a month, she hooked up with her roommate (she says no sex). We got back together, I cheated on her with my Xfiance. It sounds bad, and it is. But we still love each other.
She is trying to forgive me, I have cut off all contact with my Xfiance. Things have been hard, but going surprisingly well. NOW- last night the subject of secrets came up. I half jokingly told her that I knew that she had a few that she was keeping from me (gut feeling, though I have no idea what they are or how serious they might be). Her response turned my joke into something serious as I quickly began to suspect that not only is there a secret, but there is a BIG secret she is keeping from me. I hardly slept and I was 95% sure my gut feeling was right. She drove me to work this morning, and I brought up the subject again. Her response made me 99% sure that there IS something big that is out there.
Now I'm freaking out, wondering how I will/should react to possibilities. Last night she invited me to speculate on what she might be keeping from me (although she did maintain that there is NO secret)-- it can only be 1 of these things:
1. She cheated on me at some point when we were together that she never told me about.
2. She hooked up with or slept with someone when we broke up or were fighting.
3. She slept with her roommate instead of just fooling around with him.
4. She hooked up with or slept with her roommate after she found out I cheated (or someone else).
5. (probably the most dangerous and the one that I fear the most) She slept with or hooked up with her male best friend at some point in our relationship (bisexual/mostly gay guy).
6. She is just playing a stupid game to keep me guessing because she fears me cheating again.
This is one of those times that you have to hope that your gut feeling is wrong-- but I know it's not. I just hope I react and handle it properly when the truth comes out. Any thoughts?
