Re: alright guys, help a girl out hudson: Ok. To me, skinny means underweight and underweight is not attractive to me.
A woman who puts too much emphasis on becoming skinny is like a man who spends too much time in the gym trying to get all buff. It's a self esteem, self perception issue. It's like a guy who goes out and buys a gigantic pickup truck because he feels the need to compensate for his insecurities in other areas.
And really, as woman becomes skinnier, she loses her muscle mass along with any remaining stores of fat. So it's a health issue as well. People need a balanced diet consisting of a enough calories, carbs, fat and protein to allow the body to function as it is intended. To withold what the body naturally requires is not wise.
When it all boils down to it, I never judge a person based upon what they look like, i've been around too long to do that. The quality of the person has nothing to do with the size or shape of a person.
But as far as what I'm attracted to in a woman, well, anna kournikova, maria sharpova and all the other ova's are HOT! I like the athletic type.
Re: alright guys, help a girl out manda: You didn't ask for a girl's opinion but here I am anyway. ;D
My build is just very thin, always has been, and probably will be for a long time. My grandmother was the same way on one side and my mother on the other side.
I always wanted to be "curvy" but it just never happened. I have tried the protein shakes (when I was a teenager) and lots of other things--no, I am not going to sit and eat chocolate, so don't suggest it. But I really wanted to be a different build for years is my point.
Finally, I am trying to be comfortable in my body.
Here's the reason I am chiming in: I can promise you that other women say things about how thin I am (often rude things) and that they would like to be thin, but MEN do NOT look at me much. When I used to go places with my friends, they would get hit on all the time and they would be looked at a lot. SKINNY is not a body-type that men are into, just women.
I wish people would really understand that.
I also wish people would have manners and not say stuff that I can't respond to like. "Man, you are skinny. Look at her arm." or "how do you stay so skinny?" implying that I wanted to be that way. IT IS SO RUDE.
Anyway, I just thought I'd mention this. Women, you think that men like that, but they really don't. I think most guys like an average size if they judging wholely on looks.
Re: alright guys, help a girl out JNA: [quote author=gg link=topic=22601.msg210118#msg210118 date=1134258975">
Okay boys, time to fess up:
Please time me honestly and truly, once and for all, how important is it REALLY to be skinny? Is it a turn on or a turn off? I'm not talking starving Botswanna refugee, just, well, inarguably thin.
I could tell you my reasons for asking this but you'll definitely know then that I'm a screw-ball so just answer if you can.
thanks a bunch boys....
love,
gg
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I like "Personality" over anything...
If you are a great person and we connect then...
There has too be physical attraction to but some things ya know...
I have been physically attracted to some that can really turn you off by there nature...
I have seen women that may not be physically attractive but are such great people...
All in all I guess it is what you want...
I want a good person that is somewhat attractive...and cares as much about me as I do about her...
Not that much too ask ya know...
JNA
Re: alright guys, help a girl out flowersdirtandgardengirl: Okay, it's late, a slow night at work and I have to be here regardless, and here I thought this thread had died. :)
Random, thanks for the input. I've always been more athletically "curvy" (whatever that means, all I know is I used to have a really great rack) but definitely fell prey to the "I should look anorexic" tendency every now and then. I've almost always ran and swam etc and for the most part was fairly keen with everything I had going. But then the ex comes along and he throws the oldest trick in the book at me and before you know it 5'5 and 120 lbs is really just a little too fat. Now I am like a 105 pounds and really starting to worry about how this has affected me long term, how much his judgement of my appearance has seeped into my pysche. He is such the kind of guy who feels the need to have the uber hot chick or uber cool chic or uber leather pants/crazy/pierced/whatever chick because he is such the kind of guy who needs to feel like he is the coolest dude in the room. And eventually that wore off on me. So now I'm here and everyone tells me I'm way too thin but I'm really afraid to put on any weight....and I'm not really sure why. I thought this was a phase that would kind of pass but it doesn't seem like it has. My friend was arguing that I looked better with boobs and a butt and I was arguing against it. So maybe I was looking for validation or an outside perspective. I'm still trying to figure this one out. All I know is I need to buy new underwear because nothing fits me anymore. :-\
Re: alright guys, help a girl out frontier74: Hey gg - I'd like to throw in my vote for boobs and butt, as well. ;D Healthy is very sexy. Please get back to a healthy weight before you completely screw yourself up.
My ex went from a size 8 to a size 2 after the divorce, through extreme measures. Now her blood-sugar is so screwed up that even though she's still working out obssessively and dieting, she can't stop gaining weight. Now she's working out six days a week and is back over a size 8.
By the way, your ex was a freak.
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