Re: Asinine reconciliation attempt... ajw: What i cant understand is how your wife can say she wants a relationship with no permanence,she wants to be able to walk away at any moment.......yet she wants to have kids with you.what did she think would happen with the kid when she decided to move on
Re: Asinine reconciliation attempt... dragonfly: My ex can join the asinine reconciliation club as well.
After the affair, I moved back to our home town, he moved back as well shortly after I did, then brought the OW with him, who was a friend of mine.
Well, there were at least 2 official attempts at reconciliation, but both times he wanted me to forget about the affair, about the baby they weren't sure was his, be friends with her and the 3 of us try to work things out and be like we use to be. He refused counseling, refused to give up contact with her, refused to not live with her, and refused to do any work to get me back. He had given me the whole story about how our relationship had just gotten too hard and was too much work. That if he loved me the way he should he wouldn't have to work at it and he wouldn't have had the affair. He is still pushing for us to "at least be friends" and he still pushes for me to be friends with the OW as well. I have implemented the NC rule, but I can only hold up my end of the bargain. He contacts me fairly regularly.
He's blessed with some great friends, who keep trying and keep giving to him even though he doesn't give in return. They get upset at his lack of effort in their friendship, take a break, but then he'll come around again and they jump back on the band wagon. He's amazingly still with the OW, but I think it's mainly because it turns out the baby was his afterall. So I guess now they're going to try and make it work, even though she still hasn't even begun divorce proceedings herself (oh yeah, she's married too).
I don't quite understand things myself. He wanted freedom, no responsibility, didn't want to worry about anyone but himself, wanted to find himself, didn't want the house, the wife, the family (we'd been trying to have kids)...and now he's got all that and more. I just don't get it.
