Re: This site has been a huge help kev: Asa,
thanks. I really should clarify that. I wouldn't change a thing about our life together or how it turned out. i am glad that we had our marriage, we raised kids, and i am glad that we are still friends.
the marriage didn't work out. what can you do? doesnt change who i am or who she is. she made a bad decision that affected both of us, unfortunately forever. but, in the end, i will go to my grave knowing that i rose above this, i forgave, and i will sleep well at night, knowing that i was always who i said i was, i walked the walk. :)
Re: This site has been a huge help Dio: Kev,
That was very inspirational. Perhaps you have set a standard there. I am not sure what is going to happen in my situation (wife left a week ago and there was no cheating or abuse but no contact since either), but I hope I have the strength and maturity to act in a similar manner if worse comes to worse.
Good for you, man.
Re: This site has been a huge help krayzeeme: Thank you for sharing Kev, according to your post you think a lot like I do.
Congratulations, that's how I think it should be!
Re: This site has been a huge help kev: Hey guys, thanks for the responses and the support. It took me forever to get to the point where i could talk freely, even with my family, about what was going on with our marriage. All of you, all of us, have had a rough time, and i know that all of you have felt the way that i have.
I felt ashamed, I felt like I was the one to blame for our marriage taking such a tragic turn. I didn't talk to my parents for at least six weeks, my brother...anyone close.
but like i said earlier, i came to the point where i realized, i had nothing to hide. i didn't do anything wrong. sure, i can recognize now that i let myself get into a routine, a rut, whatever you want to call it. i functioned as a husband, i did what i was supposed to do, but the romantic in me had long been lost, the spontaneous romeo that i once was ;D had gone on a long vacation.
what i am saying is, i don't totally blame her. i am just as much to blame for our marriage becoming routine and mundane. don't get me wrong, we were happy. we had our problems, but i was too bullheaded and too passive to realize how she felt when she would say little things in the last months.
it feels good now though, to be past most of the pain and hurt of the breakup. it feels good to realize who i am again, and not let myself be defined by my wife.
anyway, i guess i am rambling.
I dreaded christmas this year (two months ago), but it is going to be fine. the true meaning of christmas has nothing to do with being married. :-)
Hope you all have a merry christmas, and here is a cheers 8) to a great 2006.
