Re: What should I do? hurtnlost: I am going to try to call tomorrow and see when I will get the agreement and I am going to tell my lawyer the questions I have and tell him I am not comfortable with some things now that I think of it. I am just afraid it is too late and he will get mad but if I have not signed anything I just do not see how it can be a definite thing.
Re: What should I do? BarbJo: Don't worry about him being mad. You are paying your attorney!!!!! He needs to do what you ask. Get what you want. If not get a new attorney. If you didn't sign anything they you should be ok. My ex keeps trying to force me to sign but I won't until I know I will be safe and ok. Stay strong!!!! I know it's hard with the holidays. I am having a hard time now. I have been at my attorney's office at least once a week now. It sucks!!!!
Re: What should I do? ohill: I concur with BarbJo. Your attorney's job is to be your advocate on such matters. Since you are paying the undoubetdly exorbidant fees, don't be afraid to make your opinion known. Attorneys are trained to "bully" people, and sometimes they bully their own clients into accepting agreements that they aren't entirely comfortable with. It could be that your attorney just wants to get this over and move onto the next case, or it could be that your attorney thinks that you have a good deal and fighting for more would cost too much, not be productive, etc.... The only way to find out is to ask.
I would recommend that you write down everything that is still a concern and go over each item with the attorney. Determine the validity of each item on your list and how truly important it is to you. Then determine the costs and benefits of changing things.
Just remember, the attorney is being paid by you to 1) give you the best legal advice he/she can, and 2) act as your advocate on all matters pertaining to your case. Best of luck!
Re: What should I do? hurtnlost: [quote author=Asa link=topic=23029.msg213688#msg213688 date=1135306621">
or it could be that your attorney thinks that you have a good deal and fighting for more would cost too much, not be productive, etc.... The only way to find out is to ask.
Determine the validity of each item on your list and how truly important it is to you. Then determine the costs and benefits of changing things.
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Asa - That is exactly what my attorney has also said to me, that he thinks I got more than a fair deal and more than half, Which I did. I mean is my husband going to be skimming by? Yes, but he asked for this not me. I do think some of the things I am worried about he will say it would not be worth fighting over in court. Some are small but my child support I ended up going 125 lower and my alimony was 50 lower than I should have negotiated but I think or wonder if I would have got more by judge.
My stbxh is going to his lawyer today to sign and then it will be sent to me. He said it is done b/c they already showed it to lawyer. I am going to call later on today and ask my questions and see what answers I get.
