So it was finalized (what now?) harmonix321: I got the phone call. Rather, there was a voicemail, I didn't have any signal when she actually called. I don't feel any better about things, or any differently about her. I still miss her like nothing else. I want her to love me again. :-\ Merry Christmas huh? Goddammit. I'm going to see a therapist starting in January, because I don't think I will get any closure from her... She's so goddamn happy about the other guy she cheated on me with and left me for.
Re: So it was finalized (what now?) harmonix321: I suppose I should mention that other than that phone call, I'm pushing 2-3 weeks of no contact, and plan on continuing this through the holidays. Knowing she is with the other guy during the Christmas break (she hasn't seen him in over 4 months, they had a LDR) is killing a part of me.
Re: So it was finalized (what now?) dumpling: continue no contact, i know this sucks. i keep thinking about how my husband is probably wrapping her christmas presents with the wrapping paper i left behind. ughh! but thinking about what they are doing will not help at all.
i hope therapy helps, it helped for me.
there is no way to describe the anguish you feel, we all feel it. hope you can find something to brighten your day.
Re: So it was finalized (what now?) ohill: Harmonix321,
I saw a therapist for about six months following my separation/divorce. I still had to do all the hard work myself, but it helped to have someone who pointed out perspectives that I didn't see. My therapist did a good job of shooting me straight, telling me where I was right, and more importantly, telling me where I was wrong. I learned a lot from the experience.
Perhaps your ex is happy about this new relationship right now, but it will always be tainted by the fact that she wasn't playing fair when she started it. Cheaters never win in the end. Just remember that if she cheated with the new guy, she has all the more capacity to cheat on the new guy....So many of these "new relationships" where people cheat on their spouses are just like bottle rockets....off to an exciting and fast start....and then, BOOM!
Hope that helps a bit. If not, please disregard...
Re: So it was finalized (what now?) harmonix321: How long should I continue "no contact?" Forever?
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continue no contact, i know this sucks. i keep thinking about how my husband is probably wrapping her christmas presents with the wrapping paper i left behind. ughh! but thinking about what they are doing will not help at all.
i hope therapy helps, it helped for me.
there is no way to describe the anguish you feel, we all feel it. hope you can find something to brighten your day.
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