How do I stop???? StillLearning: It has been 2 months since my ex decided she did not want to be with me and except for a few phone calls at first I had dealt with it reasonably well. I will be honest and say that a couple of phone calls were not very nice....I did not start angry but it ended it up that way and I would say things that I should not have because of my anger ....the things I said were for the most part true regarding her hurting me , lack of consideration for what she has done and in my opinion her complete selfishness toward us. This would of course upset her and she would cry , then I would hang up and ringup shortly after feeling all guilty and remorseful for the things I had said....BUT.....Now that she has completely moved out ( I was away for work for 1 month) and I see my life as empty and void, along with the fact that I will probably will have to sell the place we bought, I find myself very very angry towards her, her decision has forced me into a position I did not want and all I want to do recently is ring her up and abuse her and name call her because like all people who give up in a relationship, they think they know how the leavee feels but they do not. I am sick of hearing her say she is hurting too....how can the leaver be hurting the same way....after all thats what they wanted.......I have recently sent a few spiteful text messages on her phone........People how do I stop my self from looking like a fool and ringing up and emailing and texting??????....I try so hard and know it is wrong but cannot stop myself....I want her to know how much she has ruined me!!!!!!!!!!!
Re: How do I stop???? babes014u: Leavers hurt too, my friend. I left, and I am grieving too. I still want the divorce, but I love him at the same time. But he deserves someone better than me. I am not the right match for him. I do not hurt in the same wayhe does, but I hurt.
I am so sorry for your pain.
Re: How do I stop???? ChiefWiggum: Unplug your friggin phone and throw it into the backyard. Do not call her under any circumstances in this emotional state! She will think you are a loser and it will probably reinforce her decision to leave. Unplug your internet. Take some NyQuil and go to bed.
Good luck tonight,
CW
Re: How do I stop???? cc: People say that when you are happy and able to go through your days without giving your Ex a second-thought, when your able to smile and chuckle with attractive strangers, is when they'll want you back.
It's sometimes true.
This can be a problem though. You both would have to be willing to make changes hat you may not like. For now, if you need a good vent, write/type it out. Type out the whole conversation, even what you imagen she would react. If you need a more verbal release, hey, the screaming in the pillow thing is always handy.
"In private grief with careless scorn. In public seem to triumph and not to mourn." Author: Grannville
This can sometimes be the best advice when it comes to break-ups.
