Re: sheer terror to see x...why? slowlearner:
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Either he is absolutely heartless, or trying to really hurt me or knock me over the edge, I don't get it, he knows I am hurting already. He had the affair, he left me, he has somebody else, he is happy....I don't contact him unless absolutely necessary, why hurt me more?
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It would help you a lot to read Uncoupling by Diane Vaughan. She explains why he is so far ahead of you in this separation process that he just doesn't comprehend your pain. He mourned the loss of the relationship while he was still with you, and you are going cold turkey. >:(
Good luck and keep posting, it helps.
SL
