Re: Just wondering if.... twetifb: [quote author=stanker link=topic=23049.msg213840#msg213840 date=1135358493">
Her giving gifts to me would be more for HER than me. Does anyone get this?
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I get what you mean but I think it depends on the circumstances. I bought him gifts that I knew he'd like but would never see them in a store on his own because when he shops, he is zeroed in on what he wants. Also, it's my personality to buy gifts. I am always buying gifts for friends, family, co-workers because if I see something that reminds me of someone or that I think they'd like, I buy it for no reason at all. That's just me and I think it would have hurt my stbx more if I hadn't bought him anything because then that would mean that I don't even consider him part of my life anymore.
On the flip side, I would not be happy about receiving a gift from my stbx. The reason being is that he never bought me gifts...okay maybe a couple times....but it wasn't a normal gesture for birthdays or holidays.
Just my thoughts
Re: Just wondering if.... PiscesGoddess: My ex has gave me something every year since we divorced.. Last year I opened it in front of my new husband..he didnt have a problem with it but I felt really wierd... :-\ and the first christmas we were divorced I did give him a cd..it just didnt feel right not getting him anything...
This year.. :-[ I called him from walmart last night and told him I missed him at christmas time.. DOH!! He said he misses me too and that I have it easier than him and I said I know and that was it basically.. feel really strange for doing that ..but I dont know..I guess it means something to him that he is thought of..no matter what happened in the past.
anyway..thats my take on the ex gift situation..FWIW..
Re: Just wondering if.... Trillian: My ex and I used to exchange gifts a lot. BUT that has changed since he got remarried. She seems to think that anything in his past, including his children are his past and should not be included with "their" future....including his children. :(
Re: Just wondering if.... sudboy: Sort of off topic, but I bought my wife a very nice Christmas present about a month after she left me and got an apartment. I gave it to her early, as she always liked getting gifts early, and besides I felt good buying her a nice gift.
....then a few weeks later I found out that the reson she left me was not to "have her space and figure out what she wanted" but was really because she was cheating on me and she lied about it. Oh well.
So no, I don't think I'll be buying her anymore gifts, card, birthday greetings or anything at all. All that present did in retrospect is make me feel like a sucker. I hope she looks at it every day and feels lousy about what she did.
Sudboy
