Re: now she wants a quickie divorce mboyd: omg we married the same woman.....isnt that illegal...............excactly like mine
Re: now she wants a quickie divorce mikelr11: thanks everyone for your responses. i appreciate it from the bottom of my heart (or whats left of my heart). she spent the evening with her family for christmas. she told me that her entire family is behind her (of couse-they hate me-they always have-i dont wanna sound conceited but its because i am much more successful than they are.) now i have to deal with the fact that her family is telling her to leave. my eyes are puffy from crying so much that my eyes actually hurt.
i want her to stay more for her than for me. eventually in time, from what ive read on this site, ill be ok. i am very worried about her and her future. i want to know that she'll be ok and that shell never be hurt by anybody. i feel the need to protect her from anything bad that can ever happen to her. i wish i could turn the clock forward a year and have somebody tell me how it all turns out. ANY HELP AND/OR ADVICE IS ALWAYS GREATLY APPRECIATED!!!
Re: now she wants a quickie divorce frontier74: Hey mikel -- I can't tell you how it will turn out, but I can give you some predictions based on my own experience. There really is nothing you can do but leave her to take care of herself. Any hurt that she experiences in the near future will be due to situations of her own making and your input will not be welcome. If I were you, I'd do everything I could to protect myself financially and emotionally. She's most likely going to make lots of stupid decisions, and since you're still tied to her, they could affect you as well.
My ex-wife and I sold our house when we separated and ended up with a decent payout from the equity. She blew through the proceeds within months. It wasn't nearly $150K, but she threw away quite a sizable chunk of money and now she's flat broke. This is the reason that I recommend you cover your ass. Make sure it's all documented. Now that your wife's family is "behind her," who knows where her head is going to be in the coming days. They'll probably have quite a bit to say about what she should take on her way out, considering their feelings about you and your success.
I know it's impossible not to worry about her, I still worry about my ex after being apart for more than a year, but keep in mind that you can't protect her from herself and any attempt to do so will only be resented.
Re: now she wants a quickie divorce superwife: [quote author=mikelr11 link=topic=23058.msg213986#msg213986 date=1135395132">
i want her to stay more for her than for me. eventually in time, from what ive read on this site, ill be ok. i am very worried about her and her future. i want to know that she'll be ok and that shell never be hurt by anybody. i feel the need to protect her from anything bad that can ever happen to her.
[/quote"> That is quite noble of you to want to protect her like that, after she tore your heart out and stomped on it (sorry for being so blunt, but that is what she did, right?). This is what she wanted, right? Did you throw her out? She made a conscious decision to opt out of the partnership, and (it sounds to me) made no effort to work on it. I am in the same boat as you, and not for nothing, I want my ex to be hurt by someone, so he knows exactly how I feel. I know it's bitter and nasty, but he'll never know how I feel unless it happens to him. Believe me, I do appreciate that you still have feelings for her. I've tried for 9 months to block the fact that I still have feelings for my ex. I don't want to have feelings for him, as he apparently has none for me. But I don't believe it is possible to just turn your feelings off, despite the fact that she (and my ex) have basically done that. Or, these affairs have gone on for longer than we'd like to think (or know). So they have come to terms with their decisions. Naturally it will take time for you to do the same. But don't be a fool: she doesn't want you. Why would you want to be w/ someone who doesn't want to be w/ you? And of course, it is rough right now. It's been nine months and 2 days for me, and it's still rough. It's our first christmas apart (as i'm sure it is for many on this site). Now my daughter has 2 Christmases, and I have to build new traditions.... It's bittersweet.
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Search yourself if you deserve to be cheated on.
[/quote"> What exactly do you mean by that remark??? I hope it's not what I think...
