Re: The no contact thread (part deux) harmonix321: 10 days of pure no contact. This is the longest I've ever gone.
Re: The no contact thread (part deux) LostTeacher: have not spoken since mid september. and that was only because he was getting rid of some of our crappy furniture and getting new stuff for himself, and wanted to know if i wanted it. (like i wanted furniture that he's been using with the OW since i left....yah, right)
had an online conversation in november.....and one email in december.
othere than that, nothing.
getting easier....although there have been a number of moments where i have had to do everything to stop myself from calling him.
but honestly....i don't really want to have a conversation with his OW when i call.....so i avoid it. there is nothing really much to say to one another anymore anyway.
LT
Re: The no contact thread (part deux) fiona: For what it's worth- I definately am here to impress upon others how much NC has helped me. Last verbal contact was in mid July. He has reached out here and there (token E-mail, text, phone...) but I've been avoidant as a protective measure. Overall I felt an amazing sense of calmness over the holiday. I was reading here and trying to prepare myself as I heard how bad the first holiday apart can be, and has been for many of the individuals on this site. I received a text yesterday from him and amazingly enough, it was not a big deal. Just like one of the many texts I received from friends today-whom I wrote back with warm wishes. I don't feel any strong emotions connected at this point. Maybe it's a christmas miracle, I'm not sure, but I feel the NC was a major part of my getting stronger.
Re: The no contact thread (part deux) StayStrong-NYC: 13 days nc, aug. 25th last seen.still very hard, but made it thruthe holidays, no kids, so its easier in my case.
but its hard, so keep your time occupied, go out, and above all, keep nc!
Re: The no contact thread (part deux) superwife: One friggin day :-[ not by choice. It has to be at least once a week, we have a child who splits her week between us. I try not to contact, but when she calls me from his house, 50% of the time he gets on after she talks.
I have to see him twice this week (my dtr has no school, so we have to exchange at our houses). The phone calls aren't a bad as the face to face. Ironically, he never lashes out face to face (only on the phone, the coward). I think that's why it makes it worse. He acts normal. It scares me.
