anyone here completely over it? dukey: anyone want to share their progress, ie any new discoveries, any new steps forward, any things that helped you personally...?
Re: anyone here completely over it? Trying2Hope: The following things really have helped me, and though I am not completely over it, I'm about 90% through it.
1) God - I have a renewed spiritual life, and regardless of your beliefs, this has helped me.
2) Friends - People who truly support you are invaluable
3) Counseling
4) Self-Help (books, videos, anything I can get about dealing with divorce)
5) This site
Anyhow, these have all helped me.
Re: anyone here completely over it? dontgetit: I am far from over it...
I agree with the last post - whatever your spiritual beliefs are renew them...
I have found great comfort in prayer...
Re: anyone here completely over it? smokin: IM not sure that if you have kids, that you truely ever get over "it" as meaning divorce. cause there will always be something that comes up that pisses you off.
im over wanting or needing my ex wife back. i would not ever ever take her back. what has helped me, was burning, ripping, flushing, shooting everything i have that reminded me of her.
i have not a single picture, or nothing of hers left.
i have went massive no contact. (kinda forced with PO but real glad now)
i figured i dont want to be with someone who does not want to be with me.
it all helped. like he said, this site was what really got me through the hard hard hard times. it will vary for each of us.
Re: anyone here completely over it? JNA: Everyones timeline and method for healing is different...
Something that works for one may not for another...
"Time" is your best friend now as that is what it takes to get over being hurt as some of us have been...
For me it was friends and posting on boards helping out...
When not online I tried to stay as busy as possible as the "idle" mind goes to thinking about her/him over and over...
Reading helped but mostly time to go through the seven stages of Grief...Healthy healing
In "time" you will look back ans wonder why on Gods green earth did I fret over this...
But for now the pain is all too real and I know as I have been there to my friend
Hope this helps
Stay Strong
JNA
BTW...I don't think we totally get over it...
I think we get over some of it
Then learn wise lessons from the rest of it
Lessons never to be repeated again...
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