Re: anyone here completely over it? soycheese: sigh. It hasn't even been a month, but I have no idea how I'm going to get over this. I try to stay confident, detached, then she sends me a christmas e-mail and I fall to pieces. Thank god I go back to work tomorrow. I pray that helps a little.
Re: anyone here completely over it? Zipsfb: I think this biggest thing I have learned is life is too short to waste on someone who doesn't love you. The second biggest is to love everyone, even if they treat you poorly. It pays off in the end for everyone...
Lastly, I've learned how awesome friends and family are... and yes, you ojarians!
She did just call to she how I was doing, I'm trying hard not to let it get me down. Mix signals are still hard to handle... gotta stay focused.
Re: anyone here completely over it? C-Note: Well this may depress some of you here on OJAR's. I wish I could say I was completely over my Ex, but I'm not. 10 years have passed and she's still on my mind.
Friend my Ex and I share have an unspoken rule when we run into each other during social events. They make sure we don't find ourselves alone. Yes it's sad that I am still physically attracted to my Ex. And my Ex being easy doesn't help either.
Since my Ex left I have married and had 2 kids. Life is Good! But in the back of my mind I still have the memories. As of 2 weeks ago the knowledge that I may be the father of my Ex's 10 year old child was brought to my attention. I don't have and most like will never have proof, DNA, because the Ex won't let it happen. But I have the childs photo and my small group of mutal friends I share with my Ex all tell me it looks like mine. And they all say I should do nothing because it will destroy my wife and my family and the family of my Ex.
Re: anyone here completely over it? dukey: c-note, you need to try to move on from this somehow, its really dangerous even to have these thoughts, who knows where it might lead.
its not fair to your wife or kids either, please...try to get some help
Re: anyone here completely over it? C-Note: It's amazing. Just dealing with Life's everyday issues and keeping busy taking care of my kids has kept me focussed. Everything I do is aimed at making the best life possible for my wife. The woman I'm married with now in everyway is a far superior person then my Ex could ever hope to be.
I am faithful, no other woman since I've said "I Do" has ever captured my attention. But I'd be fooling myself if I said the Ex, even after all the misery she put me threw, doesn't flip a switch in me. I've only F??k'd Up once acting on that impulse and the Ex even in her new marriage played her part. The emotional damage from that was difficult, but not as bad since it happened before I was married.
I've been told people that have been together as long as my Ex and I were have to deal with our bodies being use to one another. Even though I know she left and she knows she left, when we're around each other our brains go offline. Maybe I was just trying to prove I still had it, or that there was still something there. For the Ex, well who the hell knows what goes threw her mind.
I've only attempted to contact her once in about 9 years. So I confident I won't go doing anything BAD again. To my credit the only reason I called 2 weeks ago was due to learning of the kid. And I'm even moving on again with the added knowledge and photo that makes me believe it's mine.
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