Please read my story and help me NeverEver: Hi, i new here,I'm a chinese boy who grow up in Finland. and just turned 25 before xmas, i meet the girl from my work in october, (she is 19 and she is a Finn) just before resigned myself, she started to flirt with me, we had the eye-game going on, so at one of my party, i asked her out, and she said yes. We had the most wonderful times during the whole november, we kissed at the first date, and had sex in the third. She told me that she is my girlfriend from now on... I fall in love so hopelessly. I was the luckiest guy on earth. She was beautiful, smart, fun, and mature for her age.
She is my first real girlfriend, i had girls before, but i never wanted to commit to them.
Then things changed a little at the begining of december, she started to tell me that right now, everything to her is just temporary, i guessed that, i might be a little pushy, and she got a little scared, so i chilled, played cool, stopped calling her everyday, then she start to call me. even though we didnt have sex the whole december, i still felt fine.
She didnt want to go to the same new year party as me, i was fine with it, but at the new years day, i got a msg from her and she told me that she dosent want to see me anymore, and said that she just realized that her feeling towards me is not as strong as my for her.
She was the first girl i ever loved, I did nothing but loving her and taking care of her, i cant really blame her that she didnt got the same feeling for me. But i'm REALLY REALLY depressed now, I hope to get comfort from u people in here. So i could feel a little better, i can't sleep, i keep seeing dreams and i wake every morning feeling really depressed.
sorry for my english...
Re: Please read my story and help me dgiirl: Neverever, sorry to hear about your situtation. The best thing you can do right now, is start to focus on yourself. Understandably, your self esteem is low at the moment. So you need to start focusing on yourself, doing things that YOU like to do, start taking up new hobbies, get out and meet new people (even if it's just friends). All of these things will help you start to feel better about yourself and help you get out of your depression.
It's important to ask yourself two questions every day. Did you have fun today? Were you productive today? You need to make sure you answer yes to both questions. If you dont, then you need to do something each day to say yes. It takes time to get over a heartache, but you can do it if you focus on yourself and all the things you've GAINED instead of lost.
Re: Please read my story and help me NeverEver: Thank you soo much Dgiirl! It made me feel a little better. I'm doing new plans for myself now, i plan to start the gym again, i want to lose 10kilos if weight. :P
Re: Please read my story and help me JNA: Your English is fine...
So where are you wanting to go from here...Are you wanting to know how to get back with her or just want to move on in your life and put the experience behind you...
I am sorry for your pain
Stay here and post with the others...It does help
JNA
Re: Please read my story and help me NeverEver: I dont think i want to get back with her, she didn't appreciate my love, all she wanted was having fun for a while them when things get serious she ditches me.
But I really need help to forget about her, it seem like i can't get her of my mind, i keeping having dreams, i sleep badly, everything reminds me of her, all i could think right now is the good time we spent together.
Talking to friends helps a little, but i cant hang at friends place all the time, when i come home, i feel really really lonely, I feel like nobody is calling me now, sending me messages telling taht they miss me.....
i'm 25, all my friends are engaged or married, i'm scared of being alone.... :'(
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