Re: Guys who have cheated?! Girlyburd: Just a side note. It sucks when you get more offers from women outside your home then you get opportunities with your wife at home.
Its been my experience that sometimes the women outside the home get to see a different side of the individual than the woman in the home.
Re: Guys who have cheated?! superwife: Girl who cheated (ashamed to admit it, but I'm becoming more and more open every day, in hopes that it will help me heal)
I ended up marrying the person that I cheated with (not on). Now I'm separated from that person, b/c he cheated on me. How's that for Karma??? One of the reasons I'm having a really tough time dealing with it.
I never got caught (or at least he never confronted me anout it). I left him...things were not good anyway (I'm sure that's exactly what ex is saying about him and me). We left on bad terms. I didn't just say "I don't want to be with you anymore" and go. We had a big fight, and I left the next morning. Don't even remember what it was about, but it was always something. The only real proof I have that things were not good, is that he never tried to reconcile. He let me go.
My ex never got caught either, until after he dropped the bomb. So he left on what I thought was good terms. Until I found out, then the terms changed.
The short answer: he provided me with something I wasn't getting at home (affection, attention), and i fell for it. I honestly thought it was going to be a fling, nothing more. I'm not happy about the choices I made (it obviously came back to bite me in the ass). I'd never ever do it again. It hurts too much. The one who is left, that is (I should know)
Re: Guys who have cheated?! superwife: [quote author=Scott link=topic=23519.msg218887#msg218887 date=1136400703">
I have never cheated but would like to know what goes through a womans mind when she cheats? Or should I start a new post for that?
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No need. It goes both ways, no matter what anyone things. It has no gender bias.
Although, some may argue that men and women do it for different reasons. I only speak for myself, but while 'new sex' is always nice, that was not my reason.
Re: Guys who have cheated?! flowersdirtandgardengirl: Having said what I said it should also be siad that I will never, ever do that again. In the last 15 years there hasn't been a single incident where I even considered, hot pro surfers or no. During the times of various relationships when I was unhappy enough to want out, I said it. I talked about it and hopefully I was as honest as I remember myself being. But more importantly, I think, I waited until I was much older before having any other kind of serious relationship.
Maybe it's kind of like the first time a little boy/girl 'accidentally' kills something playing with a bb gun. You have no perspective until that moment, and then, suddenly you are either filled with regret or exhilaration.
And then you either become a serial killer, sex addict, or faithful ojarian ;)
Re: Guys who have cheated?! alonewith2: [quote author=gg link=topic=23519.msg219072#msg219072 date=1136416307">
And then you either become a serial killer, sex addict, or faithful ojarian ;)
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You mean I can't be all three? ::)
Maybe I'm a little too innocent and naive, but whenever I even "considered" cheating on someone, it made me feel awful...to the point where I would break up with whoever I was with. I felt that if I could have those thoughts, then it meant I didn't really love the person I was with.
I never had those thoughts when I was with my STBX. I only wanted him. I didn't look at anyone in any way other than as a friend, etc. I didn't even realize how good looking some of his friends were until AFTER we split up.
But maybe I'm the odd ball and my whole innocent idea of love is why I keep getting hurt.....
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