Being alone? Advice please!! hurtnlost: What is everyone's thoughts on this? I have been with my stbxh since I was 17, i am getting ready to turn 28. Everyone keeps telling me you have never been alone, you need to be alone to figure out who you are. I do not understand this at all. I am the type of person that hates to be alone and I will probably seek out someone but I do not want to be in another situation where I will be unhappy in someway. How do I learn to be alone? I am just unsure, it scares me. He has been my security for so long and I took comfort in that and now that he is leaving and our divorce will finalize on a week from today and he will move out I will officially be alone. How can I deal with being alone?
Re: Being alone? Advice please!! random5: I know how you feel HurtNLost. I too would like for someone to shed some light on this.
Re: Being alone? Advice please!! snkpack5: First off, don't think of it as being alone. Think of it as being with the perfect partner (YOU!). Romance yourself. Take yourself out to dinner and shopping. Treat yourself like your dream partner would treat you. Once you learn to love yourself and treat yourself a certain way you will draw people into your life who will treat you the way you want and then no more being alone. Spend more time with your friends. Focus on yourself. Take care of you!
Re: Being alone? Advice please!! hurtnlost: I would love to be able to do all those things, but it seems to hard to do. Everyone says find yourself and figure out the things you love. I had that all figured out, it was my husband and family and he has tore that apart. I am just unsure of how finding myself will help me. Thanks snkpack 5 for the advice I will try that though. I just hate going out by myself, lol. Hence not wanting to be alone. :D
Re: Being alone? Advice please!! IlliniGirl: Being alone is not an easy task to overcome. It took me a LONG time (I'm talking over a year) to realize that I am okay alone. It got to the point with me where I got tired of searching for someone that would complete me. I realized that the only way someone was going to be able to make me happy is if I was happy with who I was. Find a group of friends who enjoy the same activities you do. Go bowling with friends, go to the movies with friends. Take time and relax at home. Pop some popcorn and throw a movie in. Cuddle with a blanket on the couch and read a book. Watch the snow fall through a window(if it snows where you are!! ;))
It's hard at first, but it does get easier.
~Angel
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