He keeps contacting me and making this harder! missingyou: WHY does he keep contacting me? He’s the one who ended it. He’s the one who acted like he wanted nothing to do with me for a month. And now what? Now he’s calling and messaging and what not. Is he using me as an emotional crutch? If I have to even ask that then I know the answer is yes.
How do I cut him off? What do I say when he calls? “Hey, remember how you tore out my heart? I don’t think we should talk for now because I'm busy sewing myself back together, ok? Great.” He tells me he’s sad, he’s down, and he tells me that he misses me. Well I miss him, too, but talking to him doesn’t bring him back now does it? It only stings an open wound.
Next time he calls should I tell him we need that emotional distance for a little while? It’s tough, this is tough. I feel like I am letting him take advantage of my desire to even hear from him, and using that as a way to heal himself. I do not look at doing this as a way to hurt him. I look at it as a way to not be taken advantage of and to heal myself in a healthy way. It is just going to take a lot of courage, strength, and a pill full of reality to make me go through with it.
Re: He keeps contacting me and making this harder! snkpack5: We're all fans of the "no contact" rule here. Ignore him. Don't pick up.
Re: He keeps contacting me and making this harder! dgiirl: Personally, I would ask him why he's contacting you. I'd be very direct and when he says "I miss you" I'd reply "What do you want me to do about that?" He's putting you in limbo. He doesnt want you, but doesnt want anyone else to have you either. Tell him he can only contact you if it's an emergency. You two are no longer friends, and unless and until he tells you he wants more, I'd implement no contact.
