Pre-Move Jitters? IlliniGirl: I am getting ready to move 1100 miles to be with my bf. We've been dating about 4 months or so, and the distance thing is killing me, as well as him. We decided after Thanksgiving (the last time I saw him) that I should move out there. So, I am going.
Now I am starting to worry about small things. Will my sleep habits (tossing and turning, blanket hogging) drive him insane? Will he constantly leave the toilet seat up? Will I be able to deal with being away from my family? Will I fit in well with the friends that I haven't met?
I know it seems silly, but I am leaving all I know behind, and moving to be with him. I love him with all my heart.....he is my split-apart. He is the love of my life, of this I am certain.
I think it's just nervousness about being in a committed relationship again....the first since my divorce almost 2 years ago......
Any thoughts?
Re: Pre-Move Jitters? Dont-want-one: This is off the main topic of your original post, but if I may ask: Why are women so concerned with a toilet seat being left up... Can't you guys just lower it before you sit down? We have to raise it up after you guys are done with your business :)
Re: Pre-Move Jitters? IlliniGirl: Because, IMO, it looks tacky leaving the seat up.....
Re: Pre-Move Jitters? LostTeacher: i think that you are going to be just fine.
look as the last little while....how have you been feeling the last little while? have you been happy or sad?
all of those things that you mentioned....those are all little things. they are things that, if you are really happy with one another, you can work on. they are no big deals.
and you have to look at it another way also. this is not an end all be all move. if, heaven forbid, something goes wrong, you can move again. it's not like you will be stuck in a situation that you have no control over.
you have to think of it in a positive frame of mind.....and that the other things are just jitters, minor details.
LT
Re: Pre-Move Jitters? IlliniGirl: LT~
He makes me very happy. I haven't EVER been this happy. Not even when the ex and I started dating. C is a wonderful man, and I have NO doubt whatsoever that things will be fine....I just find myself worrying over nothing I think.
My brain keeps saying to me that "my marriage didn't work, what makes me think this will?" Then I say, "but I tried to make my marriage work, and C isn't K. He's different, he respects me, and he'd NEVER hurt me like K did."
Then it goes into, "Yeah, but shouldn't you have done more to save your marriage?" "No, his hitting me didn't stop, why should I have put up with that longer? He didn't deserve me, and C does. C LOVES me. He makes that evident EVERY day...more than the day before."
I seem to keep throwing myself into this cycle, and it's driving me INSANE. I have talked to him about it, and we've gone back and forth....both of us having nothing more than nervous doubt, but it is still there. I guess the only way to know for sure is going to be to get out there and make it work.
