Re: I dont know what to do... hudson: Hey pg. (((HUGS))) girl.
You know, your husband sounds like he's projecting onto you. Deep down he feels inadequate and probably a little ashamed for not being able to provide for his household. And the only way he knows how to express it is to make you feel like shit.
We here at ojar know that you are a wonderful girl so try not to take it personally, if you weren't there for him to verbally abuse, he'd find somebody else to vent on. It's not you, it's him...don't forget that!
It's text book repressed anger/emotion behavior.
Try to convey to him the best you can that this is not acceptable and if he doesn't straighten his shit out he'll find himself alone. I know that your words probably have little effect on him at this point but I'm sure you can figure out a way to get through to him. You two love each other deep down, so I have faith that you guys can work through this tough time.
About the money, well, that's a tough one. I think at this point I'd take it where I can get it. If you have family that are willing to help you out...take the help.
Take care pg, we're thinkin' about you. And don't forget, it's all gonna work out.
Re: I dont know what to do... yella: I wouldn't worry too much about the suicide attempt right now, Girl. If you're going to counselling, and seeking help, he can't take them away.
Going to the domestic violence center is a great idea, and will serve very useful.
Remember, if you need anything at all, even if only to do research or something like that, I'm here for you.
Stay safe!!!
Re: I dont know what to do... smokin: the ojar mofia may have to set up again.
the last guy that f**ked with one of our ladies, was never heard from again. lol.
cheer up. go to the domestic abuse center. send the mo-fo away. no need to scare the kids, or you. pos.
need anything, let us know.
Re: I dont know what to do... yella: [quote author=GOOSE TAPE MAN link=topic=23537.msg219126#msg219126 date=1136419421">
the last guy that f**ked with one of our ladies, was never heard from again. lol.[/quote">
This, I'm sure is true in more than one case! ;)
Re: I dont know what to do... PiscesGoddess: Goose and Smiley you crack me up! Too funny!
Blazin- I hear what your saying..and part of that is right..about not being able to provide for his family and such..but..the other part is..he's emotionally and verbally abusive often. I tried coating it with all those excuses for a very very long time :-\ I cant save his soul..and God knows Ive tried..He treats me like a child..not a wife..he treats the kids..like soldiers in his army..and the only person in the world to him...often is him. I dont want to just sit and dog him..he has his good qualities..but...I am really getting beat down by the way he is treating me and the kids. As I said if I go back through my posts..the same story tends to come up everytime...
We may love each other deep down..but he and I both know we have been on a sinking ship for quite awhile. I have stood for abuse in the past..thats why I once again jumped into a relationship..and took the same crap..I gotta get some self worth goin... I was reading back through posts..from before I married him? And I thought what happened to that girl? I can remember feeling radiant and happy and had tons of self esteem...I dont know suppose Im rambling..
I think its time to call it a day with he and I...he has told me on no uncertain terms that he will never change...so therefore the situation has too. (sorry started out to blazin and kinda trailed off..love ya blaze!)
Thanks again everyone..you all are unbelievably kind!
Love,
PG
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