Re: I want to date but I don't BlueberryDaphne: Ok, this may sound bad, but here it goes.
When my x left me, my pal encouraged me to sign up w/ a great pic for the self esteem. I know that's lame, but after being put thru a blender, it was ok to to come home after a long day at work and have a "ur so pretty" email waiting for me. Besides after being entertained by the emails for maybe 6 mos. or so...i met some of them and had some of the best dates I'd ever had. I still dont' like dating. But I think I like it more than before.
Good luck.
Re: I want to date but I don't LostTeacher: have thought about doing this myself.
my city is so small, and it is such a small world, i don't know where to start.
i can't meet people at work, every guy is married.
i can't meet at the bar....that so far has been a disaster.
i am going to go back to school soon, but don't know if i will find someone there, and that's still a ways away.
i am finally, after a year, ready to date, and there is no one.
might check out some dating sites here in my city, but don't know if i have the guts to try them out. and don't they cost money?
might wait until i am living in my own place again before trying that out.
LT
Re: I want to date but I don't superwife: You have to be pretty open-minded about it. I was doing it just to see if I still "had it", and yes it was nice to get some attention, 'you're cute" or 'you sound really nice'. believe me, they weren't breking down my door. But there were plenty to choose from in my Zip code alone. (no one I went with were in my zip, btw).
Anyway, I just did it to see what would happen. It was 3 months post d-bomb, and i really felt lonely. Went out w/ 3 guys, nothing majorly scary. 2 of which I didn't really pursue, one of which didn't pursue me after 2 dates. I started to really stress over it, feeling like I was in HS again (the ones I like don't like me, and the ones that like me, i'm not interested). Then I met the one I'm curently with. We hit it off immediately, (probably too quickly), I'm a little more committed than I want to be (or at least I feel like I am) , but it's good company, free dinners, good --x. Just do as I say, not as I do, take it slow.
You gotta try it, if you really want to. I know a lot of people who have done it. SOme find it too stressful. A couple of my single friends from work (who are same age as me, but never married) have tried it, but didn't like it. Maybe it works better for divorced people. There are plenty of divorced guys out there on the sites.
Also, you don't have to respond to the losers...you can block their profiles and mail on some sites. And if it doesn't work out for you, just remove your profile.
