Re: Poll: How long until 1st date shockedandamazed: Told myself I wouldn't date until after the Divorce was final...which was December 30th, 2005!! Woo-hoo!
So, you're guess is as good as mine on all three of these...maybe I will call wallpaper guy (other post) and set up my first date!!
As for comittment...no way no how....not until I go out and live a little for myself for once!
Re: Poll: How long until 1st date Trying2Hope: I've gone on two dates in the two years she's been gone. Both dates were friendly, but not romantic. I feel like they were failures, and we didn't even shake hands, and we never spoke again.
Of course, no relationship.
I think I've forgotten how to have sex and at this point I am afraid I never will again.
Needless to say, I am a very sad & lonely man.
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I'm sure I'm at the bad end of the spectrum, so don't be discouraged by my post.
Re: Poll: How long until 1st date superwife: Hold on- let me get out my calendar...
First hook up post d-bomb= 3 months
First 'hook up' post his moving out (shmuck stuck around for 10 weeks)= 3 weeks
First sex (Post d-bomb)=4 months and 1 week (diff guy)
First serious relationship= 4 1/2 months (and counting.... but shouldn't be anymore. Not a good idea, as all my friends keep remiding me) diff guy also
Re: Poll: How long until 1st date IlliniGirl: Okay....
First Date post divorce: 3 weeks
First Sex post divorce: 12 days....yeah, I know, but it was my birthday!! ;D
First Committed relationship: 18 months post divorce, and we are still together ;D
Re: Poll: How long until 1st date catherine: [quote author=steve link=topic=23581.msg219882#msg219882 date=1136510991">
First date / I feel sick
Commited / Get me a bucket
Sex / BLLLUUUURRRRGGGHHH!!!!!!!!
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I can so relate to what Steve said... just the thought of being with someone else sexually, or for that matter, going out on a first date, makes me feel sick to my stomach. It’s been over two months now and although I’m hoping one day I will find the courage to share my story here, I think what makes it so difficult to fathom, is the thoughts and images that accompany the idea -- and that is of him being with someone else as well.
I’m actually very embarrassed to admit to this, but I’ve even tried to [s"> masturbate[/s"> on my own and failed. Not only have my attempts to erase or replace the fantasy of him with someone new been impossible (not that I would want to be with him any more anyway considering what he did -- as a matter of fact even the idea disgusts me right now), however it’s practically impossible for me to rid the images of him in various sexual situations with other women. Instead, I just end up sexually frustrated and emotionally exhausted and sob myself to sleep.
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