Re: Money for Kid WhiskeyGirl: I absolutely agree with lumpy.....why on earth would he "put the money away" and not give it to her? This is his child, he is responsible...this is a moral thing...sure "legally" I suppose he could get away with it for a while..but why???
Last thing he should be doing is trying to squeak by doing the bare minimum and refuse to pay until ordered by the courts....IMHO..its better if the courts are left right out of it...lets try to salvage some sort of working relationship for the sake of the child.
As Lumpy said..at least you're responsible for half the daycare...and I would also suggest looking up the child support tables for your state online....you'll be able to see approximately what you need to be paying on a monthly basis. Don't just cut her off because you are pissed off...thats just cutting off your nose to spite your face. You need to co-parent with this woman for the next 18 yrs.....trust me, its a bit easier if ya'll get along.
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Re: Money for Kid smokin: thats crazy to hold money back, till the courts order it. if he doesnt pay her some money, he has a better chance of seeing the toothfairy today, then to get custody of his kid.
what about the kid. does he need food? does he need a blanket? holding money back, hurts only the kid. and if its used as a tool to get the other person back, well do you want someone to come back to you, because they need money? ..............well i dont.
do whats right, and atleast give 1/2 of daycare. and always pay with a check. i know a guy that got nailed after a year of cash, and a reciept. she said it wasnt her signature, and it was a big fight.
good luck....
Re: Money for Kid Dont-want-one: My take is: I can understand paying for clothes and food for your child, but why daycare? I am guessing she works and needs to put him somewhere while she is working... why can't she leave him with family or hire a very cheap baby sitter?
Re: Money for Kid threetimeloser: What you pay for depends on the state you live in. Regardless, He better find out what are the requirement for his state are and fast. You do not want to find out that he should have paid and then owe back payments because he is not a good saver and spent it on that car he needs.
Whether the money is for daycare, food or clothing is does not matter. I do not know of may states that require a log to be kept of how she spends the money. If he is required to pay daycare, like Sarah says, he is not getting out of it unless the child doesn't go to daycare.
He needs to check the laws for his state or a website like Divorcenet.com or Nolo.com. Ignorance is no excuse for the law.
