Re: Money for Kid Lumpy: You should at least be paying for half the daycare plus something for child support. You've got to understand that this is something you need to do as the father of your child. It has nothing to do with you and your wife working things out. Don't be a deadbeat dad.
Re: Money for Kid dontgetit: I disagree with most everything that has been said..Give her nothing until the courts order it..........They will decide what is fair based on guidelines and what you can afford........Yes he is your son and yes you have an obligation, but don't be a sap............Get a lawyer - go to court and let the system tell you what you need to pay........Yes this will upset her, but frankly if she wants to come back in 6 months whatever you do today will be water under the bridge............
I say all this while I am raising a 10 year old by myself while my ex wife is out living with her new boyfriend and paying nothing - thing is I do not want or need her money, if the day comes when I do I will follow my own advise............Yes she has an obligation, she just chooses to ignore it....
Re: Money for Kid Lumpy: [quote author=dontgetit link=topic=23582.msg219929#msg219929 date=1136520130">
I disagree with most everything that has been said..Give her nothing until the courts order it..........They will decide what is fair based on guidelines and what you can afford........Yes he is your son and yes you have an obligation, but don't be a sap............Get a lawyer - go to court and let the system tell you what you need to pay........Yes this will upset her, but frankly if she wants to come back in 6 months whatever you do today will be water under the bridge............
I say all this while I am raising a 10 year old by myself while my ex wife is out living with her new boyfriend and paying nothing - thing is I do not want or need her money, if the day comes when I do I will follow my own advise............Yes she has an obligation, she just chooses to ignore it....
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So you want Zephix to be as irresponsible as your ex-wife? Chances are he's gonna have to pay back whatever he doesn't pay out now anyway. You are always responsible for your childs' welfare. Period. Don'tgetit whether you need the money or not you should hold your wife to that responsiblity. Open a trust or college fund for your daughter and put that money in it. You can't divorce your kids. Nor should you want to.
Re: Money for Kid dontgetit: I did not suggest he be irresponsible - what I do think though is that he should let the court decide how much to pay...
I would give her nothing until it goes through the system - put the money aside in the bank just in case you have to pay back months, but I would wait until the court puts a dollart amount on it....
As far as my wife is concerned - I was not suggesting she is not responsible, just showing that not all people feel the need to be responsible...........
Re: Money for Kid Lumpy: [quote author=dontgetit link=topic=23582.msg219966#msg219966 date=1136528112">
I did not suggest he be irresponsible - what I do think though is that he should let the court decide how much to pay...
I would give her nothing until it goes through the system - put the money aside in the bank just in case you have to pay back months, but I would wait until the court puts a dollart amount on it....
As far as my wife is concerned - I was not suggesting she is not responsible, just showing that not all people feel the need to be responsible...........
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I can tell you right now he's, at the very least, responsible for half of daycare. To let his wife try and carry that burden is irresponsible IMHO. I understand that he was paying for all of it.
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