She is trying to contact me avoj: Well about a month ago I received a package for my ex, it was her training materials, so I contacted her via email to come pick them up, that i would leave them on the porch. I saw her that morning driving to my house.
Ok. So I am hurt by her rubbing her new g/f in my face online. So I posted that I am in a relationship with this girl she hates, pics and everything on sunday night. The relationship is pretend. We did it to pizz her off.
Yesterday my ex sends me 2 emails, calls twice at work(caller ID), asking if i received her traning materials. Of course I didnt answer the phone or respond to her emails. I think she tried to call again this morning.
Why is she doing this? Why does she post on her blog that she spent new years eve in the arms of the woman she loves and that the magic words are to heal & let go. And that this new woman will help her keep that resolution. What?
Why does she hate me? Why did she leave me for a 20 year old bisexual? I didn't do anything. She hurt me really bad. I love her & will always love her.
Re: She is trying to contact me snkpack5: I'm sure she doesn't hate you, but you really have to move on. Exes contact their exes all the time for so many reasons, but its rarely for the reason the victim ever hopes it to be. I think they do it out of some profound sense of guilt or cruelty. It may be that she's sorry. Who knows?
But it definitely seems to me that you value her a lot more than she valued you. Learn to see your own worth and then find someone who can see it too.
Re: She is trying to contact me JNA: I'm sure she did hurt you really bad and I am sorry for that as I have been there on the hurting side of things...
The thing to keep in mind though (and I struggle with this also because of a particular woman) "if" she did come back around would she appreciate you...Would she not do this again and leave...Would there be any trust in the relationship...
I seriously doubt it
She has disrespected you...Hurt you terribly...Flaunted it in your face (Add more here if you like)
I don't think she hates you but think it is more her hating what she did and knowing she did it...
Quote: "And that this new woman will help her keep that resolution. What?"
So move on...and I hope you are working towards that
I know what I wrote is probably not what you want to hear but the longer you try to figure her out the more you will hurt...
You have given up enough "Power" to her...
Don't let her have anymore power over you
You need this person in your life like a Field Mouse needs a Farm Cat...
I am sorry you are hurting...Don't try to analyse the situation though because you will never figure her out...
I never figured my ex out
JNA
Re: She is trying to contact me bluesman: hey Avoj,
how long ago did she leave?...if it's been some time why is her training materials coming to your address?...advise her to put in a change of address or you will "return to sender" anything else coming to you...
block her email and don't go to any blog site she is posting on no matter how tempted you are...you can trust me on this that it will be hard (VERY HARD) but if you don't know what she is saying about you it won't hurt as bad...if she does contact you by phone, do it politely but end the call ASAP...
sounds like she is trying to keep you hanging to have some one / where to fall back on...
if you got to post anything she will read, say you are feeling better and things are looking up...having an imaginary relationship with some just to piss her off, may backfire on you and cause problems with some one else...
I had a situation almost word for word like yours some time ago (before emails / computers were common) except she said she didn't like the "lesbian thing" yet they would run the bars together...the school called about her kid one day and I told them "she don't stay here anymore" and they asked where to get hold of her, I told them "at the bar"...
it's going to hurt, possibly for some time, but the less contact you have, the sooner you will feel better...
good luck
good luck...
Re: She is trying to contact me avoj: well i kicked her out of my house about 5 months ago b/c she was treating me like crap, stealing money, cheating on me with this bi girl. i made the mistake of letting her see the poetry i wrote on a blog. she and her g/f immediately went to the same site and she started blogging. writing all this horrible stuff about me and how in love she is now. that i need to move on.
on this site i did put a pic of me and a old g/f up (recent pic) saying we are in a relationship on sunday, knowing full well my ex hates her.
i am going to stay away from her blog. maybe if she sees i am not logging in anymore she will stop rubbing her g/f in my face. it hurts so bad.
i know if she cared about me she would have never done this, she would have gone to couples counseling back in may when i suggested it.
we were together for 8 years, went thru cancer together. i thought we could beat anything. i guess i was wrong.
i dont hate her. i am not angry anymore, just hurt, so hurt. when i replyed back to her emails yesterday i was mean. it was just that i am sooo hurt.
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