Re: Are you their second choice if they come back? bluesman: I did the "2nd chance" thing quite some time ago...
GF and her daughter were living with me for about 6 months...told her she could stay but had to get a job. She had something lined up that would of gave training, insurance, school options, (it was better than my job!). Came home from work one day and she had packed MOST of her stuff and left...Turned out she went to a bar picked up some guy that said he would support her and she didn't have to work. After they pissed away all their money, (lights cut off, etc..)she comes back and said she wanted me back but since daughter was getting confused, just wanted to get small place and we would have another go at it.
I paid deposit & 1st month rent & helped move her in. Went by couple days later, not there. Turned out was back at the bar, picked up another guy and he was starting to hang out place I paid for. Took all her stuff still at my house, chucked it in driveway and left. Did run into her about 3 years ago, apologized but it meant nothing to me...To this day I still refer to her as "what's her name",.
I DON'T do 2nd chance...
Re: Are you their second choice if they come back? C-Note: O boy. My Ex went back and forth for a long time. Too long. Then about 11 months after she moved out we went for it. Tried to start over and took a trip on the spur of the momet. 3 Days later I woke up to her crying on the phone with other guy early in the morning. Party over. Came back to reality and been moving on ever since.
Re: Are you their second choice if they come back? kipeachi: a second chance? hmmm My x and I have separated many times before, to give us space, time to fix our problems. Which we always worked out, got back together. Now I found out that he had cheated on me several times, and two weeks after we split this time, he moved a gf in. We have dicused divorce a couple of time, he keeps saying things like, well you never know what the future holds, just take one day at a time. I think he's dragging his feet when it come down to it. I think he wants to put off the divorce, incase this new relationship of his dont' work out. Or at leas thats the way I feel. I have absoulute no trust for him, but I love him w/ all my heart. I dont' want him back, cause I dont' think he'll ever change. So i'm pushing for an divorce.
I know that if my x came back it would only be to use me, I would be his cushion. But for some who want to return I guess might actually be true, guess theres always second chances, as for mine, i'll pass
Re: Are you their second choice if they come back? BONILLAK: Shit I wouldn't take mine back for anything! I would never be 2nd to anyone. Yes I do believe if they leave and return that its never for a good reason. Its either their life didn't go as planned, need you to fall back on, feel most comfortable with you, etc. It surely isn't love. Someone who truely loved someone would never hurt them in this magnitude. I believe in honesty, respect, trust and love...all he no longer has.
Re: Are you their second choice if they come back? Suddenly Single: I would not take my ex back for anything. He made a choice and now he has to live with the consequences. I said to him " I may not be the thinnest and most beautiful wife ever BUT I can definately tell you I am not a sloppy second and never will be." You do not cheat on me and then come back. I always always always told him if he cheated then that was the EXACT same thing as telling me he wanted a divorce because that is what he is going to get. I don't BS around. I divorced his sorry pathetic cheating arse in less than 3 months.
I moved on to MUCH MUCH better things.
Easy roadN? No! but more than well worth it.
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