Re: Why Won't She Divorce Me dgiirl: my exh sat on his ass too and never filed... after 5 months, my lawyer told me i should file, i did, and i was very thankful. Knowing my exh, if i didnt file, we'd still be in limbo. I dont think he wanted to deal with the guilt of actually filing. Just file and get it over with. If she comes back, you can always get remarried. But for the time being, just get everything done and finalized.