still wondering.. pamela: k..so the first time i ever posted here i was an emtional mess to say the least..and all i could ever think about was whether or not i was ever loved by my ex (still feels wierd to say that)..ne way.. ive been thinkning about it again lately..and i cant honestly say that i believe he did. He broke up w/ me in such a cold way..he didnt even hide the fact that he just wanted to get rid of me to be w/ someone else..he showed me no consideration or respect..and u just cant treat someone that u "love" like that..but now i wonder.. is this just some little defense mechanism ive created to help me feel better about the break up..b/c i do have to be honest.. thinking about him as a stone cold person is better than thinkning about him as the great guy that didnt wanna be w/ me nemore..is this normal?..am i wrong to think the way i do?.. :-\
Re: still wondering.. Mr.Brightside: Nope, not wrong at all. I feel the exact same way about my STBX. Ultimately we all have to twisty-tie a failed relationship, and sometimes the best way to do that is to get angry, or create falsifications that adhere to all the reasoning circling our brains. It's very natural. Keep your head up, and things will get better.
Mr.B
Re: still wondering.. snkpack5: I think this is a necessary part of the grieving process. Once your emotions are not so raw, you may begin to soften your emotions and maybe even become friendly.
Quite normal. I still think mine is a complete butt five years later.
Re: still wondering.. Trying2Hope: He's a jerkass. Get on with life.
Re: still wondering.. Irony: [quote author=Crush(ed)">
Pamela...he can't be a great guy that just didn't wanna be w/ you anymore, because if he were a great guy, he'd never have broken your trust, your heart, your vows in the first place. Right?
You will come out of this stronger and can find a truly 'great guy' if you allow yourself to 'let go' and choose to take the risk of being hurt again by opening your heart for new growth and love.
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Crush..
WOW! sorry to hijack this thread for a moment, but I just got thru emailing my stbxw, and I wish I'd of read the above before I hit 'send'..
My breakup was harsh as well, no real explanation,.. just the old "I love you but can't live with you" routine.
And pamela, she's right.. he couldn't have been that great a guy to treat you so callously!
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