Re: Thank You for RUINING My Day! snkpack5: Tarheel,
I can sympathize. My loser ex has been married for two years already and I can't even seem to find one guy I can get excited about. I wonder how he could just jump into something else like that, but then I figured its cause he was the one who hurt me and he recovered quicker. But that doesn't mean he's happy. She could just be rubbing it in your face to get your reaction?????
Re: Thank You for RUINING My Day! barelybreathing: The point is Tarheel, is IF she was happy, she would have no need to contact you whatsoever. What would be the point?
Either that or she has bpd and needs to contact you to make you feel bad again. To suck you in again so she can feed her supply.
Either way, you should not beat yourself up for being genuine and human.
BB
Re: Thank You for RUINING My Day! alonewith2: [quote author=Tarheel link=topic=24043.msg224804#msg224804 date=1137201140">
Anytime I tell somebody about how "great" a person I'm dating is, I'm happy. Anytime anybody else has told me about how great their SO is, they are happy. Why should this be any different?
She has somehwat of a relationship. I do not. She doesn't deserve a relationship. I do. THAT is the problem.
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She's already proven to not be a good judge of character, right? So, no, it doesn't mean she's happy. The reason she can find someone quicker than you is because she has no standards....you do! You could have a relationship right now (the party girl) but you chose a rule book with higher and better stakes! Don't be upset that she has a relationship...it won't last, just like the last one didn't! Do you really think you'd be happier in her shoes? Do you really want to just be with someone just so you can say you are?
Re: Thank You for RUINING My Day! Lumpy: [quote author=charmed link=topic=24043.msg224788#msg224788 date=1137199874">
Your ex sounds immature and a bit flaky. She probably doesn't "get it". She probably has no idea the depth of your pain or what she did. She's probably one that floats through life not caring how she affects others as long as she is happy. But, is her happiness long lasting? Doubtful since she doesn't seem to have the ability to land in one place and stay there.
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The thing is she may never "get" it. You may never hear the words that you want to hear from her. Stop waiting around for her to be human. It just can't be important to you anymore. I don't think I truly got over my ex until I accepted this. In fact, it made it much easier for me to let go of her once I realized that she wasn't capable of that kind of empathy. Do I want to go on caring about someone who is so incapable of holding herself accountable? Simple answer. Uh-Uh....
Re: Thank You for RUINING My Day! Lumpy: [quote author=barelybreathing link=topic=24043.msg224811#msg224811 date=1137201512">
The point is Tarheel, is IF she was happy, she would have no need to contact you whatsoever. What would be the point?
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Right answer sports fans. This is not a declaration of happiness IMHO. It's said in order to see how you will react. And to be fair...you asked...stop slamming your fingers in the car door big guy.
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