Re: Thank You for RUINING My Day!

Re: Thank You for RUINING My Day! Tarheel: [quote author=alonewith2 (SNB) link=topic=24043.msg224812#msg224812 date=1137201602">
Don't be upset that she has a relationship...it won't last, just like the last one didn't![/quote">

I'm not upset about that. I'm upset about the fact that she's fixing a plate when she hasn't brought anything to the table. perhaps that's a bad analogy, but if I don't donate to the club, I don't get club privileges. This is like YellowJacket winning tickets to see my Carolina Tar Heels play in the Final Four depsite Florida AND Georgia Tech not even making the NCAA Tournament. I know I'm delirious right now, but am I making any sense?

[quote"> Do you really think you'd be happier in her shoes? Do you really want to just be with someone just so you can say you are?
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All things considered, no, I wouldn't be happier. But it's the PRINCIPLE of the matter. And no, I don't wanna be with someone just to say I am, but it's obvious that I don't like being single, even if I think I'm making strides in that department.

And BTW, I still think there is some indirect blame I can place on her for all of this s***. After all, I wouldn't be single right now had she not screwed everything up.

And again, the actual act of her seeing somebody else isn't the problem. It's just the fact that it IS happening. I don't know if that makes any sense, but I undertand what I'm trying to say and that's all that matters.
Re: Thank You for RUINING My Day! alonewith2: [quote author=Tarheel link=topic=24043.msg224838#msg224838 date=1137203652">

.. the actual act of her seeing somebody else isn't the problem. It's just the fact that it IS happening. I don't know if that makes any sense, but I undertand what I'm trying to say and that's all that matters.
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I'm sorry if I wasn't understanding what you were saying. I did tell many people that I can be dense at times...I wasn't lying. You aren't upset because she's with someone else....you're upset because she can be with someone else. Do I have that right?

It's just like all of us single parents who get upset once in awhile that the other parent gets to go out, but we are home with the kids. We'd be happier on those days if we were out.....just like you are saying you'd be happier if you were with someone, too.

I was just trying to point out that for us single parents, we could go out, it just takes more effort (ie getting a babysitter, etc). The same is true for you. Just because you don't have a relationship right now doesn't mean you can't. You still have that option.

She's going to date...it's her option, too. She has less responsibilities so she has more free time to go out and find someone. You don't. But it will happen, and you'll feel better. I know though, that it sucks when they (the exes) get that opportunity before we do.

Re: Thank You for RUINING My Day! snkpack5: Tarheel,

When my ex hooked up with his now wife, I wasn't mad because he was with someone other than me, I was mad because I felt he didn't deserve to meet someone and fall in love after all the horrible things he did to me. And I was even more mad because while I was busy taking care of the two kids he and I brought into this world, he had plenty of time to go out and meet someone while I was busy wiping poop off buttcheeks.

I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL.

Re: Thank You for RUINING My Day! Lome: I wish I had the words to express how I really do get the massive amount of emotions this has brought up. I do get this....So, as one who can not even for 2 seconds take my own advice.....been there, done that, doing it all again and seeing it failing

here it goes....
you gave it your best shot....you kept your honor....you kept your love true....
you gave her more than one chance to keep the marriage together, and she still blew it....she is just so selfish and "lacking" that she now sees what she so freely tossed away....and she misses the old patterns and comfort zone., in some weird way....go with the limited contact if that is possible....she still has the power to hurt you

Huge hugs.....
Lome

Re: Thank You for RUINING My Day! flyaway: [quote author=snkpack5 link=topic=24043.msg224902#msg224902 date=1137218886">
Tarheel,

I was mad because I felt he didn't deserve to meet someone and fall in love after all the horrible things he did to me. And I was even more mad because while I was busy taking care of the two kids he and I brought into this world, he had plenty of time to go out and meet someone while I was busy wiping poop off buttcheeks.

I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL.
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Nicely said, snk! This is SO what I feel too.