judgemental, or good judgement? dukey: alot of people have been forgiving to their partners, and rightfully so, because people make honest mistakes sometimes.
the question is, instead of being judgemental, should it be good to use 'good' judgement? i was in a case that i did use good jugement in a relationship where i saw many odd characteristics with my ex, but if i had left, i would have been considered not being sympathetic or supportive as a partner, and even selfish, even though i saw these major red flags at the very begining.
its almost a catch 22, the person is inflicting a feeling guilt as a means to fufil his or her own needs at the time, but when time comes for them to dig deep they would much rather leave you with no remorse....
if someone keeps making mistakes, is it good not to have too much faith in the belief that this person can somehow overcome whatever error in judgement they made? any comments...?
ive read of alot of people's partners having sexual affairs etc, and the spouse forgiving them, only for the cheater to do it again and eventually leave. it just seems all too odd, nice guys do finish last in many of these cases.
Re: judgemental, or good judgement? flyaway: Can you be a bit more specific, Dukey? I'm having trouble figuring how to reply without a bit more detail. Thanks! :)
