(Closure = Answers) True or False? C-Note: Sorry for my ignorance. I do own a dictionary. Searching old OJAR post could help me to. Instead I'd like to ask this question.
What is Closure?
Could understanding why my Ex cheat bring Closure?
Is Closure something I can get only from my Ex?
Can Closure be obtained from within?
What I do know is this. For the first time in years I've stopped wanting my Ex. Reading many OJAR posts and in particular the article linked below helped me reach this milestone.
http://www.newliving.com/issues/nov_2003/articles/abandon.html
In time I hope to reach a point when I will no longer want to hear any answers for many questions only she can provide me. Curiousity is apart of human nature and may make this an impossible task to accomplish.
Thank you for you kind words in advance.
Re: (Closure = Answers) True or False? alonewith2: Closure came to me only when I decided that "I" was okay. He has given me answers..... which many I still don't understand. He apologized, but I never really believed him.
No, for me it was finding a place inside myself that when asked, "are you going to be okay?" Answered back, "yes, better than before."
Re: (Closure = Answers) True or False? JNA: What "closure"...LOL
I got a phone call that stated bye because she ran off with her Doctor Friend...
Besides there is no closure for most of us as what we are being told is probably "lies" anyway...
Find your own closure...I did
Slam the door and never look back...
There loss
JNA
Re: (Closure = Answers) True or False? dgiirl: i think you can only bring yourself closure. You'll always have questions, and when they provide you the answers, you'll have more questions. Closure is when you allow yourself not to care anymore, become truely happy with who you are, and realize a lot of this is their issues not ours.
Re: (Closure = Answers) True or False? Horseface: Closure for me has always been a final acceptance of the situation. You realise in your head and heart that this is the way it is, and you can move one.
Takes a long time and some times people do not get there. I have seen it happen with other parents that have handicapped children - they never really accept them. It is shown out in their behaviour. They baby them or they will continually complain about the life they as parents are having to live. THe medical costs...etc.
Granted that is not the context of these boards but it is an example I have watched first hand.
Just my .02 cents.
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