Re: does it make him feel like more of a man? Trying2Hope: Because he's an idiot who needs that to boost his worthless self esteem for 3.5 seconds. After that, he realizes how pathetic he is, then has to find self esteem somewhere else.
Re: does it make him feel like more of a man? Lumpy: [quote author=gg link=topic=24064.msg225007#msg225007 date=1137266665">
Lumpy,
I thought that too. I thought god, if it's so true, why spend all this time talking about it? But I'm still a standard issue human being with a faulty human heart and when someone goes out of their way to hurt me, usually it's not too hard to succeed, to some extent. Anyway, it's cruel and childish and I know I'll rise above it. Doesn't mean it makes sense to me. I don't understand why he feels the need to kick the crippled when he's so clearly standing on two strong feet.
:-\
gg
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I don't necessarily believe that his stance is so strong. If these mutual friends value you, then it seems to me that he's only going to alienate himself from them. I gotta believe it's a front to some degree. If he is so cool with everything why would he bother to even bring you up in conversation?
Re: does it make him feel like more of a man? flowersdirtandgardengirl: Aaaaarrggghhhh......personally, I just hope he falls down in a ditch and gauges out his other eye.
Seriously. Pity part over. F-him already. I'm done.
Thanks for the shoulders guys...
love,
gg
Re: does it make him feel like more of a man? snkpack5: Sounds like maybe he's trying to convince not only himself but every else that what he did was acceptable, that there were reasons, and that he's so much better off. Does it make him feel like more of a man? Possibly, but I guarantee you it makes him feel like no one will view him as being the jerk in the situation.
My ex did all those same things to me. Like it wasn't bad enough he left me, he harrassed me constantly. I could have taken the end of our marriage much better if he didn't feel it necessary to throw things in my face, come around and bother me, try and convince all our "mutual" friends that I'd done something to deserve his mistreatment of me. They're jerks. And he obviously cares more what everyone else thinks of him than what you do or he would be respectful and not speak about it at all.
Don't buy into the crap he's selling. WHEN THEY'VE DONE WRONG, THEY WILL ALWAYS TRY AND MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE IT WAS YOUR FAULT. IT EXPLAINS AWAY THEIR BEHAVIOR.
gg, I don't know you, but I know your pain. It is all too familiar to me even after all these years.
I know that I am better off. Even in the long lonely nights when I miss having someone in my bed, I still know I am better off without him. And if he wouldn't have left, I would have still been trying to fix problems that could never be solved. I'm glad he took the decision out my hands cause I'm not sure I would have ever been strong enough to leave him.
The world works in mysterious ways. The excitement lies in the possibilities.
