Any kind of advice PLEASE danblank000: I don't know if i should be posting here. All you guys seem to ave real problems like divorce from long time partners but i'm all out of ideas and desperate for any kind of advice.
I am 22 years old and nearly a yr ago my girlfriend of 3 yrs decided to call it a day between us, on valentines day, on our 3 yr anniversary. I can't say it was a huge shock at the time because our relationship had been rocky for a while and only a month or so befre hand she told me that while she loved me, she was not IN love with me any more. Whlie i have come t terms with her reasons for the break-up and can honestly say i understand them, i have not even started to begin to move on.
The problem is i want nothing more in life than to get her back. She says she wants to be on her own at the moment and we are trying to stay friendss. The problem is i cant stop hasslig her about my feelings, i call her everyday and i feel so down. I dont know what to do. She says she still wants to be friends with me and at no point has she ever said that she does not want to get back with me ever agian. I'm too scared to move on and start looking for another partner incase she is jut saying she wants to be on her own for a while and get back together in a few yrs wen we are older and if that is the case i do not wat to jeapordise that.
I just dont know what to do with myself. I am tring to change myself into a better person so she will want me back
There are many more issues that i have probably left out and any response i get to this pot, i will justify with more reason but please please please someone help me. Im completerly lost without her
Re: Any kind of advice PLEASE Older Guy: Calling her everyday is not gonig to help you. Your best defense is to stay away from her for now. If she wants space give it to her. Otherwise you'll be pushing her even further.
Moving on doesn't have to mean finding someone else. It could mean to focus on yourself and become happy with being alone and being comfortable with being you. Trust me it is hard to do but it "can" be done. Once you feel good about yourself you'll be ready to share yourself with someone. Someone could be your ex or someone else when the time comes.
Leave her alone for a while and give her the opportunity to think. Otherwise, it will wokr agianst you.
Good luck.
OG
Re: Any kind of advice PLEASE Trying2Hope: I agree. Leave her alone.
If she wants to come back, she will. If not, she won't.
Don't call her anymore.
Re: Any kind of advice PLEASE smokin: only she can decide whether to come back or not. they say that if you bug her, then it pushes her further away...
try not calling, or talking for a while. maybe she will call you, then you will know whether she thinks about you or not......
try it. atleast one last time....good luck.
Re: Any kind of advice PLEASE tracy: I agree, I just had to do the same with my husband of 5yrs. No Contact- don't call her, if it is meant to be she will be calling you... Once they know you are ok and handling the situation they seem to wake up..
Good Luck I hope she does the same....
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