Re: Any kind of advice PLEASE bluesman: I agree with all the previous comments...don't contact her, if she wants to talk, let her get hold of you...if she don't hear from you for a week, she may start calling you...
if you keep calling and bothering her, next thing is you may end up with a restraining order...
good luck
Re: Any kind of advice PLEASE danblank000: Thank you so much for all the advice. I know that you guys are all right and that is what i should do, but as you appreciate, doing it and agreeing with it are 2 very different things!
i am going to try my hardest to not call her as much but some of you must appreciate that overwhelming urge to contact someone.
I will keep this post updated with how everything goes, this way even if things dont go well for me, maybe someone else can lern from my experience as i am going through it.
Once again i thank everyone fo their advice, it means a great deal to know that other people have felt like this before and have come through it.
Re: Any kind of advice PLEASE cmeinred: You have a hard emotional situation. Why don't you ask her if she ever sees the two of you together again (perhaps later on or maybe in a couple months or never. Try to get an answer from her. In the meanwhile stop calling her you sound like your hounding and depressing her it doesn't help things at all. If you don't feel comfortable enough to be in a new relationship don't be. Don't use that excuse that your waiting for her you sound desperate. If she wants to be apart then let it be. Go on with your life and try to find things to keep busy so you don't keep thinking about her. It's hard to move on I know I have had to move on from a 10 year relationship. It's possible you can do it. Relationships aren't supposed to be that hard. LOVE IS LOVE AND THERE'S NO ROOM FOR ANYTHING ELSE.
Re: Any kind of advice PLEASE PROFKLUMP: I understand your urge to call. You were young when you got together. My Ex X of 6 1/2 years was during my "prime time" 18-25. I would do anything to have that time back. Consider yourself lucky... you are 22 and you now can be a 22 year old. Go and have fun as much at this current time that is not what you want. This could be a blessing in disguise!
Re: Any kind of advice PLEASE Miss Scarlett: I completely understand what you are going through. That is the situation between my ex husband and myself. He had moved on before I did. My emotions became so overwhelming that I would break down into screaming hysterics, which did NOT help the situation. It also didn't help that he went on a couple weekend trips with another woman. Believe me, I know how evil the phone can be. I wanted nothing more than to call him every 5 minutes and interrupt what they were doing together.
Everyone is right. Back off and let her have some room. There is no chance to salvage your relationship if she sees you as acting "psycho" (and I've been labeled that). When your emotions get the better of you, it's so hard to just rein them in and swallow all the bad feelings. Being alone is scary, I'm not quite sure how I will handle everything, but I am also looking at it as a chance to discover myself.
Good luck to you.
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