NEED ADVISE NOW!!!! BarbJo: Please give me advise now. My ex husband and I had an agreement that we would not have our 2 and 4 year old children around any boyfriend or girlfriend. He has violated that 2 times now. He lost overnight visits with the children due to this. Today he had the children from 9am-630pm and he violated the agreement again. His girlfriend is with my children now. My attorney advised his that this is not to happen. My daughter is having so many problems because of this. She is calling the girlfriend Mommy, she cries everytime he comes to pick her up and she says she doesn't want to go with daddy. I was told my my therapist that I should not let the children with him without supervised visitation. What do I do? I am going to tell him that he can no longer have the children until we go to court. What do you think? I know he is their father and he has rights but I have to protect my children. Please help!!!!!
Re: NEED ADVISE NOW!!!! charmed: Your children's best interests are what's important in this situation. He is their father and having a relationship with them is also important, but not if it's causing them harm. If he can't be mature and adhere to the agreement, then you need to do what you have to to protect them. Maybe you could call your lawyer to see what you can do now, before the court date.
The way your daughter is behaving is definitely a concern. Most young children are happy to be with their Daddy. Either she's mixed up by the whole situation or something is amiss in your ex's household that is disturbing her.
I wish you the best-
`charmed
Re: NEED ADVISE NOW!!!! BarbJo: So do you feel that it is ok to tell him he will not take the children until it is brought to court? That is what I feel I must do.
Re: NEED ADVISE NOW!!!! charmed: I went back and edited LOL because I didn't exactly answer your question.
Since he hasn't paid a lot of attention to this agreement, I feel you need to discuss what your rights are with your lawyer. You could have a discussion with your ex, but will it do any good? Would he fight it or go along with it? If you feel he won't put up a fight over your wishes, then simply telling him how it's going to be might work. I get the impression he won't go along with this.
Re: NEED ADVISE NOW!!!! charmed: Also, is this a legal agreement or a verbal agreement between you and your ex?
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