Re: NEED ADVISE NOW!!!! BarbJo: it is a written agreement between his attorney and mine.
Re: NEED ADVISE NOW!!!! BarbJo: He is dropping the kids off in 10 mins. I am going to put the kids in the house and tell him he can not pick the kids up again untill we go to court. I have to protect them. He keep violating every order the court gives him.
Re: NEED ADVISE NOW!!!! charmed: A legal agreement is binding, but you have to do what is right for your children. I would strongly advise calling your lawyer as soon as possible. He is breaking the agreement, so in my opinion, that MIGHT mean you aren't obligated to go along with the original plan. I do not know this, but it's a possibility.
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Re: NEED ADVISE NOW!!!! WhiskeyGirl: I'm going to be honest and say that I think its pretty strange that you can have a legal agreement that states he can not have the children around ANY girlfriend. He is the father and should be capable of making decisions regarding the kids and what is in there best interest. If you think he is making unhealthy decisions for the kids thatn you can try and get supervised visitation, but you have to go through the courts for that and I think you may need a better reason than the fact they have spent time with his girlfriend.
I may be missing something here...what exactly are you protecting your kids against? The girlfriend? Is she a bad person? Mean to the kids? On one hand your daughter obviously like the girlfriend enough to call her mom...on the other she crys and doesn't want to go with her dad. I know she is only 4 but why does she say she doesn't want to go?
And your therapist said you should only allow supervised visitation? Is this also your daughters therapist? your husbands? I'm just not sure how she could give that advise without knowing either of the people involved quite well?
I know how much it hurts to know your ex is moving on and that someone else is involved in his life and in your kids lives....but my intial feeling I get from this is that the kids aren't upset so much by spending time with his girlfriend (kids that age are very accepting a a rule) but more by your reaction to it...they are feeding off that.
Cutting off contact from their father is a huge thing, think about this very carefully and be sure you are actually doing it for the kids ....and not because you are having trouble letting go.
Re: NEED ADVISE NOW!!!! charmed: [quote"> Cutting off contact from their father is a huge thing, think about this very carefully and be sure you are actually doing it for the kids ....and not because you are having trouble letting go.[/quote">
I agree with Whiskey on this.
I assumed by what you were saying about your therapist, your child's reaction, etc. that there are extenuating circumstances that you didn't get into - as in your children needing supervised visits for a good reason.
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