Re: my heart, my head, and other unsolved mysteries lvaughn24: I am not familar with your story, but I can say I fought the same battle when my marriage first ended. It does get better, ands everytime he does somehing that hurts you or makes you mad the fight becomes less. Time will help you with this and eventually you will barely think of him at all.
Re: my heart, my head, and other unsolved mysteries flowersdirtandgardengirl: [quote author=blazin'heart link=topic=24517.msg230329#msg230329 date=1138081382">
We have to get used to the concept that there is this person is out there that we have loved more than any other yet can never again be with. It's a lot to absorb. But like I said, it all begins to balance out.
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Okay this thought? Seriously f-ing depressing. You mean to tell me that I'm gonna go through the rest of my life loving this virtual piece of orangutan excrement more than anyone else? How crapping dismal. Way to sentence me to one heck of a dogsh*t life. :-\
No. I refuse. I don't care that I'm reading Love in the Time of Cholera and all I can think about is him. I don't care that I looked out the window of the plane tonight with those silent kind of tears that come so easily and thanked god for Reese Witherspoon and Mark Ruffalo and their silly little movie because it meant the plane was dark and I could sob in peace and quiet. I don't care that I can't help but wonder who was I to him? Fermina or just one in 622? And if I'm not Fermina then who is? Because if it's the anorexic supermodel I'm going to kick myself in the proverbial nuts for loving him so much. I don't care that I still think to myself, will you return to me in fifty one years, nine months and four days? Was I ever Fermina or just one in 622?
Because there has got to be more to life than this and that and him. Otherwise I'm calling it quits and getting myself to a nunnery right quick. What's the point if we aren't going to meet someone who we love not only just as much but more?
Re: my heart, my head, and other unsolved mysteries sadgirl951: I feel exactly the same way. Your head says to forget about him but your heart makes your head produce those old loving memories. So it is a battle between your heart and your head in the beginning of divorce. That's where I am at right now. But I think with time, and I think a lot of people can agree, that eventually your head wins. You will love again. It's just that the next time, you will start with your head and not with your heart.
