Re: Ya know .. Trillian: I ALREADY stated that I was not going to take this personal. :D It has been a long couple of weeks. My babysitter is now telling me that my daughter is touching hers on her "private parts" and that as of the first of Feb they are refusing to watch my girls any more. My dr tells me the depo thing the DAY that the babysitter tells me that. And I am scared, because I am in love with someone and not sure how to proceed. I know that I loved both of my ex's BUT this is different, I have NEVER felt like this....
Re: Ya know .. Trillian: :-* :-* :-* :-*
Re: Ya know .. yella: JA - I completely see what you mean here. I think a lot of couples, and even in my marriage, communication breaks down way too easily.
In today's society, technology plays a huge role in everything we do. From pc's to cell phones, to blackberry, to ipods, technology is always there, and honeslty, that takes away from what we should be doing... paying attention to the actual relationship we're in. It's so easy to get lost in all of it, and just not want to waste time talking face to face.
Now we all have to be a bit more creative and even force ourselves to go back to an old fashioned time. Force ourselves to actually talk to each other rather then text, e-mail, call, etc...
There are little tricks you can use to establish good communication. Like writing little notes to each other to get a point across, then actually talking about it. In this age, we are so much better at the written word that we often get hung up when we have to talk face to face, so you write out your issue, pass it along, then talk about it. It forces you to connect.
But this is only as good as it's users. If you establish this "rule" ahead of time, and both parties fully agree to use it, communication will be so much better.
Re: Ya know .. JNA: [quote author=JadedAngel link=topic=24531.msg230428#msg230428 date=1138118944">
[color=navy"> Through all in all ... I cannot believe some of the things people let become issues in their relationship ... it is absolutely unreal and absurd to me ... I can't believe how people don't talk ... I can't believe how people make things out to be more than they are .. and I can't believe how they let things slip in between their fingers. It's amazing to me.
I guess that is why I just don't get my ex -- we didn't have this --- boy .. maybe me keeping things on even playing grounds ended up screwing me. [/color">
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I agree some people really screw things up in a way mostly by not communicating...
On the issue of you screwing up...
Not...
More like set bounderies maybe so you were not walking on...
Something I failed to do one time...
I may be way of base so just ignore if that is the case
JNA
