I am so lonely! lisa: I have been separated from my Ex for almost 2 years and have not been dating or seeing anyone. However, I met someone 3 weeks ago and things seem to be going fast, maybe too fast. Even though he just mentioned that he is not ready to see only one person, meaning he still wants to see other women, I am not really thinking of telling him we should call it quits. I like him, and I don't want to end this...not just yet. I don't want to be by myself again....I am confused. Are my feelings normal?
Re: I am so lonely! lookin4alite: Lisa,
Welcome to Ojar. Yes, your feelings of lonliness are normal. If you can balance your emotional needs with your physical needs then you could remain in this relationship. He is in it for the physical, you must consider are you in it for the same thing he is??? If not then you must move on, if you are then it will work.
Hope that helps
Take Care,
Lite
Re: I am so lonely! jadedangel: [color=navy"> I think what your feeling is normal ...
My only suggestion is not really to say ... let's quit. But ... seriously consider just saying .. 'let's slow down' ... It will tell you what he is truly interested in. Like Lite said .. if you are both in it for what it should be for .... it will work out ... even on the slower route. [/color">
Re: I am so lonely! threetimeloser: It looks like you are still in the friendship stage. Getting to know each other. Why end it yet? If you enjoy his company, why not see where it leads? You may end up being very good friends. And friends will help with the lonliness.
Sometimes things that are said, can change. You will never know if it all ends too soon.
Re: I am so lonely! bleedingheart: [quote author=lisa link=topic=24538.msg230521#msg230521 date=1138125025">
... I met someone 3 weeks ago and things seem to be going fast, maybe too fast. Even though he just mentioned that he is not ready to see only one person, meaning he still wants to see other women..
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Sounds like the guy just wants to possibly sleep around with different people. If it's an emotional need that you have, then you might not get it from this guy. I've known guys who target emotionally vunerable women just to get laid. So be careful as to not get burned.
I may be out in left field, but that's just my opinion,
BH
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